Son unlocking front door and walking in
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When my son visits (he's in his 50s), he unlocks the front door (he has a key for emergencies) and walks straight into the house. This is a fairly recent development, he used to ring the bell and wait. We're fairly close to him, but my wife does not like it, I think it unsettles her. It is difficult to raise it as I'm pretty sure my son would take offence. Is my wife being unreasonable?
Tell him that he had good timing as you've just pulled your weeping member out his mum's backside and that it might be a good idea to give you a heads up next time, or ring the bell like a normal human.
Or man up and take your key back.
Why would this be awkward for functioning adults.
Or man up and take your key back.
Why would this be awkward for functioning adults.
'er side of the family, 'oo are from 'uddersfield do this always and to anybody's house.
You arrive and just open the door and let yourself in.
Mother in law does it when arriving at our house, she then walks straight in to my house and starts unloading her s
t into our fridge.
She lives 2 hours away. Which may or may not be enough,,,,
You arrive and just open the door and let yourself in.
Mother in law does it when arriving at our house, she then walks straight in to my house and starts unloading her s

She lives 2 hours away. Which may or may not be enough,,,,
lornemalvo said:
When my son visits (he's in his 50s), he unlocks the front door (he has a key for emergencies) and walks straight into the house. This is a fairly recent development, he used to ring the bell and wait. We're fairly close to him, but my wife does not like it, I think it unsettles her. It is difficult to raise it as I'm pretty sure my son would take offence. Is my wife being unreasonable?
Note you've written 'my son' not 'our son'.Is your son not also your wife's son?
EmailAddress said:
Tell him that he had good timing as you've just pulled your weeping member out his mum's backside and that it might be a good idea to give you a heads up next time, or ring the bell like a normal human.
Or man up and take your key back.
Why would this be awkward for functioning adults.
Some adults are easily offended. Possibly this does not bother you but I don't want to fall out over it.Or man up and take your key back.
Why would this be awkward for functioning adults.
Sheets Tabuer said:
My mother is the other way, I go and knock the door, she opens it and says the door is always open for you son, no need to knock.
I still knock.
Exact this I still knock.
Many years back when I still lived with at my parents I would sometimes ask my mum loan of £20 to go for a Sunday lunchtime pint, she would tell me to help myself from her handbag which always resulted in me finding her handbag and delivering it to her to hand over the £20.
After I moved out I still had a key but not once did I think to use it and always knocked.
When my dad was alive I did this all the time when popping in, I only lived round the corner so saw him frequently.
He died so out of common courtesy I started to ring the bell, still had my key though, when relations between me and his widow started to go south, she demanded the key back, it was actually oddly liberating when I threw it at her, I think because it meant the end of any kind of relationship going forward, it was lovely!!
He died so out of common courtesy I started to ring the bell, still had my key though, when relations between me and his widow started to go south, she demanded the key back, it was actually oddly liberating when I threw it at her, I think because it meant the end of any kind of relationship going forward, it was lovely!!
My wife's family all walk into each other's houses, but only if they are unlocked.
We bought our house from my wife's parents, so although they are very well behaved about it being ours & not theirs her dad still passes comments along the lines of 'don't forget to look at the gutters...'
We bought our house from my wife's parents, so although they are very well behaved about it being ours & not theirs her dad still passes comments along the lines of 'don't forget to look at the gutters...'
lornemalvo said:
When my son visits (he's in his 50s), he unlocks the front door (he has a key for emergencies) and walks straight into the house. This is a fairly recent development, he used to ring the bell and wait. We're fairly close to him, but my wife does not like it, I think it unsettles her. It is difficult to raise it as I'm pretty sure my son would take offence. Is my wife being unreasonable?
I do this. Dad is that you?TX.
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