Why was I wrong?
Discussion
Please indulge me, I'm convinced that I was right but everyone else thinks I was in the wrong. It'd no big deal but I'm curious to know if my opinion is in the minority.
Driving up a steep(ish) hill towards a local village.
Up ahead I see a car turning around and a low loader driver standing next to his vehicle doing the twisty motion with his hand in the air clearly indicating I should turn around.
I'd have to be thick as s
t to not have sussed out that the road was blocked.
I pull over and prepare to reverse back, look back over my shoulder ready to go.
The guy in the car who has turned around pulls up alongside me and put his window down indicating that I should do the same.
At this point it was clear that he wanted to tell me that the road was blocked, I could see that and I was preparing to re-route so I just nodded my head but didn't roll my window down. He went into a strop and started shouting at me, fk knows what he was ranting about I couldn't hear him through the glass.
Why would I have to listen to him telling me something (unsolicited) that I already know?
Is my Mrs wrong to say that I should have humoured the old tt and listened to him and thanked him for stating the fking obvious?
As I said, all but one of my (so called) friends think i was being an ignorant tt.
Driving up a steep(ish) hill towards a local village.
Up ahead I see a car turning around and a low loader driver standing next to his vehicle doing the twisty motion with his hand in the air clearly indicating I should turn around.
I'd have to be thick as s
t to not have sussed out that the road was blocked.I pull over and prepare to reverse back, look back over my shoulder ready to go.
The guy in the car who has turned around pulls up alongside me and put his window down indicating that I should do the same.
At this point it was clear that he wanted to tell me that the road was blocked, I could see that and I was preparing to re-route so I just nodded my head but didn't roll my window down. He went into a strop and started shouting at me, f
k knows what he was ranting about I couldn't hear him through the glass.Why would I have to listen to him telling me something (unsolicited) that I already know?
Is my Mrs wrong to say that I should have humoured the old t
t and listened to him and thanked him for stating the fking obvious?As I said, all but one of my (so called) friends think i was being an ignorant t
t. Mike335i said:
Odd, can't see you did anything wrong per se, but my thoughts are:
Maybe there was something else he wanted to say in addition?
Did he see you indicate that you understood, or could he have missed it and thought you were simply ignoring him?
Why didn't you simply roll down the window to say thanks?
His reaction is entirely disproportionate, but I don't understand why you didn't let him say what he needed to say, even simply out of courtesy.
This seems like a totally avoidable situation.
I just chose not to engage with him, I could see the issue, had decided what do do about it and started to take action. I could see nothing that he could add to the execution of my plan.Maybe there was something else he wanted to say in addition?
Did he see you indicate that you understood, or could he have missed it and thought you were simply ignoring him?
Why didn't you simply roll down the window to say thanks?
His reaction is entirely disproportionate, but I don't understand why you didn't let him say what he needed to say, even simply out of courtesy.
This seems like a totally avoidable situation.
I've posted in The Lounge as it's not a motoring scenario specifically it just happened to occur in the car.
Another recent example is where a friend offered me money, I had zero need for the offer and have no idea why he did this, he now thinks that I am somehow indebted to him because he had made this unsolicited offer.
C70GT said:
You assumed you knew what he was about to tell you, before he had a chance to. The fact you did not wind your window down prevented him from telling you what he thought was important and that you needed to know, so yes you were ignorant. There was no need for him to get upset though, life is full of ignorant people.
That's my point.I knew exactly what he wanted to tell me about, come to think of it he was being insulting by assuming I was too thick to have spotted the situation.
Why should have to listened to him because he assumed I was dim? I would have felt compelled to thank him for telling me something I already knew, I would have reacted badly to this and most likely told him that I wasn't blind and had already spotted the problem.
Of course, I could have played along just to make him feel all warm and fuzzy.
BertBert said:
How could you know what the other bloke was trying to say? Maybe a good idea of what it was, but no certainty. Unknown unknowns springs to mind.
It's a risk that I was prepared to take.Im my mind it's not dissimilar to ignoring a phone call, what gave this guy the right to my attention and to get moody when I chose not to engage?
Superleg48 said:
Oh my goodness! Your attention is some kind of golden chalice of wonderment that you and only you determine when and to whom it should be given? You sound like a very sociable chap who would be a blast at a party.
What happens if say, you are waiting in a room, I don’t know maybe to see a Doctor and the chap or lady next to you remarks on the weather for the time of year....do you ignore their unsolicited attempt at sociable small talk on the basis that you have decided they are not worthy of your attention? Unbelievable ignorance.
It's more arrogance really but I do get your point, you allow others to decide for you.What happens if say, you are waiting in a room, I don’t know maybe to see a Doctor and the chap or lady next to you remarks on the weather for the time of year....do you ignore their unsolicited attempt at sociable small talk on the basis that you have decided they are not worthy of your attention? Unbelievable ignorance.
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