XC90 II buying advice

[In the sticks]

Hi all. looking to buy a used XC90, circa 2018-2020 ish. Usage is mixed, but mileage per year is only around 10k. We've moving from a 5 pot D5 (XC70) and was wondering what the views are on petrol vs diesel. Half thinking the petrol doesn't have enough torque but having not driven one I'm not sure whether it's an issue or not?

Are there any must have's to look out for (heated windscreen) or things to avoid?

We're looking circa £35k ish, probably via selekt for piece of mind.

Appreciate this doesn't narrow it down too much but interested to hear owners views....

[In the sticks]

Thank you, some really relevant points there.
Does yours have active suspension? not sure if that's a must at all or does it not roll too much (standard driving, I know it's not built to go round corners like a go-kart)

[In the sticks]

Petrol vs Diesel is also a consideration. Sounds like the D5 is the most popular but do any of you have a T5? If so, what's it like