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Hello all,
I'm a regular PistonHeader using another account for the purposes of this post. Please can I request that the sleuthers among you who are able to work out who I am keep it quiet please.
I am an experienced person in my field having done my role for 12 years, 6 of them as a manager, 2 as a manager of managers. I recently moved back up North from London to take a job with a big company that I saw as a long-term role for me with great career prospects. I'm now in my 9th month at the company.
The first 8 months have been great, my projects are moving forward at or ahead of schedule, I've restructured my team and we're now seen as a good shared services team. Last month, I went out ill for 1 day with gastroenteritis, came back the following day still ill as I had to dismiss someone in my team for misconduct. The following week, another member of my team attempted suicide and the following week I was on annual leave. On my return things between my manager and I became... odd.
Immediately upon my return my manager came into my office and told me all the things I was bad at, I requested examples as I know I've performed well against the things I'd been called out on (it was all task related rather than behaviour related). They didn't have any tangible examples but "a feeling" that this wasn't working. I said "fine, let me take this away, deliver and prove that these are not issues." The following week, I sat down with my project plans and went through each with a focus on highlighting where I'd performed against the things I'd been called out on. Instead, on walking in, I got the same conversation, this time with extra anger but still nothing tangible. I lost my cool a little, them they were "being ridiculous as there's no actual evidence... just a f
king feeling!". Didn't go down well but needed to be said. I ended the meeting with a question: "is this fixable", response was "I don't know." to which I replied "I know I can do it, I've been doing it for the last 8 months, performing well based on our conversations up until last week, I'll prove it".
Proved it, smashed everything out of the park, kept my powder dry gave my manager zero ammunition to fire back at me. Walked into the meeting today, said I am frustrated that we're here, and ran through where I am with everything... except that's not how it went. I walked into the meeting room planning on doing the rest. Before I got a chance to speak, I was told that they don't think this is going to work out.
What?!
So confused now, how can I go from the hero who came in, built process and structured a failing team to deliver, developed their morale and improved their interaction with the business, got high praise from my manager, their manager, the MD and all my internal customers... to Mr. sthouse fkwit who is a crap underperformer?? Not quite how I worded the question but not far from it.
I quickly realised I'm fighting a loosing battle, something has happened that they're not prepared to tell me and I'm heading for the door. Scapegoat? Genuinely crap & deluded? fk knows but by this stage, I don't care, I'm pissed and I want out of this ridiculousness. So I said "what do you want to do?" the response was "I don't see you here in the future, I'll talk to my manager and come back to you next week."
I've passed my probation period, on a 3 month notice, their policy on dismissals only covers gross misconduct and disciplinary procedures, I fall under neither. So, what the fk do I do... I'm at a loss completely.
I'm a regular PistonHeader using another account for the purposes of this post. Please can I request that the sleuthers among you who are able to work out who I am keep it quiet please.
I am an experienced person in my field having done my role for 12 years, 6 of them as a manager, 2 as a manager of managers. I recently moved back up North from London to take a job with a big company that I saw as a long-term role for me with great career prospects. I'm now in my 9th month at the company.
The first 8 months have been great, my projects are moving forward at or ahead of schedule, I've restructured my team and we're now seen as a good shared services team. Last month, I went out ill for 1 day with gastroenteritis, came back the following day still ill as I had to dismiss someone in my team for misconduct. The following week, another member of my team attempted suicide and the following week I was on annual leave. On my return things between my manager and I became... odd.
Immediately upon my return my manager came into my office and told me all the things I was bad at, I requested examples as I know I've performed well against the things I'd been called out on (it was all task related rather than behaviour related). They didn't have any tangible examples but "a feeling" that this wasn't working. I said "fine, let me take this away, deliver and prove that these are not issues." The following week, I sat down with my project plans and went through each with a focus on highlighting where I'd performed against the things I'd been called out on. Instead, on walking in, I got the same conversation, this time with extra anger but still nothing tangible. I lost my cool a little, them they were "being ridiculous as there's no actual evidence... just a f
king feeling!". Didn't go down well but needed to be said. I ended the meeting with a question: "is this fixable", response was "I don't know." to which I replied "I know I can do it, I've been doing it for the last 8 months, performing well based on our conversations up until last week, I'll prove it".Proved it, smashed everything out of the park, kept my powder dry gave my manager zero ammunition to fire back at me. Walked into the meeting today, said I am frustrated that we're here, and ran through where I am with everything... except that's not how it went. I walked into the meeting room planning on doing the rest. Before I got a chance to speak, I was told that they don't think this is going to work out.
What?!
So confused now, how can I go from the hero who came in, built process and structured a failing team to deliver, developed their morale and improved their interaction with the business, got high praise from my manager, their manager, the MD and all my internal customers... to Mr. s
thouse fkwit who is a crap underperformer?? Not quite how I worded the question but not far from it. I quickly realised I'm fighting a loosing battle, something has happened that they're not prepared to tell me and I'm heading for the door. Scapegoat? Genuinely crap & deluded? f
k knows but by this stage, I don't care, I'm pissed and I want out of this ridiculousness. So I said "what do you want to do?" the response was "I don't see you here in the future, I'll talk to my manager and come back to you next week."I've passed my probation period, on a 3 month notice, their policy on dismissals only covers gross misconduct and disciplinary procedures, I fall under neither. So, what the f
k do I do... I'm at a loss completely.thanks -crookedtail-. I've never been on any plan, my 1:1's literally went from "you're doing brilliantly and everyone thinks you're great" 1 week to "you're crap" in the next 1:1. I think you're advice is very good, take on chin, negotiate package... seems sensible now I've had the drive home to let it sink in... and 2 beers 
TooLateForAName. Haha!! I could have worded that better!! To be clear, suicide attempt was not work related and I'm the only person in the business that this person will speak to for the moment... I'm just glad they're okay!!
Resounding advice is, negotiate good package, take it and run. That seems like the sensible choice.
It's a shame as I love the role, the company is okay and my team are great but as has been said, this cloud will have a silver lining I'm sure
Thanks for the replies so far!
TooLateForAName. Haha!! I could have worded that better!! To be clear, suicide attempt was not work related and I'm the only person in the business that this person will speak to for the moment... I'm just glad they're okay!!
Resounding advice is, negotiate good package, take it and run. That seems like the sensible choice.
It's a shame as I love the role, the company is okay and my team are great but as has been said, this cloud will have a silver lining I'm sure
Thanks for the replies so far!
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