Have i been used as punch bag at work?
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I work for very large multinational company and have been finding hard to get along with my manager. He is not soft spoken and his personality is bit harsh. He makes comments on everything i do and sometimes it affects my confidence. Its becoming harder and harder to have any conversation with him because i know he is going to make comments on what i say. He doesn't admit his faults and thinks he is always right.
It feels like he is waiting for me to go wrong so that he can make some comments.
One week he tells me to do things in certain ways and next week he gets annoyed if i follow his instructions and tell me we should not be doing this way. I am worried if i confront him then he may sack me.
He joined the company 6 months after i joined and i have been working here for an about 2 yrs now. He sits in USA with my other team mates. I am the only developer in the UK. He is technically good as he used to be a developer but he doesn't have any managerial experience.
He doesn't know how to motivate team, he has never said 'Well Done' or good job. He doesn't respond to team's email. 95% of my emails get ignored. Only way i can talk to him is either via IM or on the phone. I have noticed that he doesn't like to be bothered, last week i had a project meeting with him and he was listening to me on the phone and the same time working on his computer as i was able to hear him typing. I found this bit rude.
To me, it feels like he is a control freak. Most of the time he doesn't let other person complete his views and he will just interrupt him by saying hold on
hold on 3-4 times until other person shuts up. It happens every day in daily stand up meetings.
We had a junior developer who resigned few months ago and he was treated very badly by him, may be because he was junior. He was being used as punch bag. He also sacked a permanent member of our team because he never liked him from day one and they both had conflicts.
There is no freedom of how i like to do things because he is involved in every single thing and he points out mistakes on no matter how good the job is done.
This is the first time i am having problems getting along with my line manager in my 14 yrs career history.
What are my options?
I like the company but not him. I am on very good package and don't want to lose my job. I like to complain about his attitude but i don't know if it will resolve anything and things may get worse.
It feels like he is waiting for me to go wrong so that he can make some comments.
One week he tells me to do things in certain ways and next week he gets annoyed if i follow his instructions and tell me we should not be doing this way. I am worried if i confront him then he may sack me.
He joined the company 6 months after i joined and i have been working here for an about 2 yrs now. He sits in USA with my other team mates. I am the only developer in the UK. He is technically good as he used to be a developer but he doesn't have any managerial experience.
He doesn't know how to motivate team, he has never said 'Well Done' or good job. He doesn't respond to team's email. 95% of my emails get ignored. Only way i can talk to him is either via IM or on the phone. I have noticed that he doesn't like to be bothered, last week i had a project meeting with him and he was listening to me on the phone and the same time working on his computer as i was able to hear him typing. I found this bit rude.
To me, it feels like he is a control freak. Most of the time he doesn't let other person complete his views and he will just interrupt him by saying hold on
hold on 3-4 times until other person shuts up. It happens every day in daily stand up meetings.
We had a junior developer who resigned few months ago and he was treated very badly by him, may be because he was junior. He was being used as punch bag. He also sacked a permanent member of our team because he never liked him from day one and they both had conflicts.
There is no freedom of how i like to do things because he is involved in every single thing and he points out mistakes on no matter how good the job is done.
This is the first time i am having problems getting along with my line manager in my 14 yrs career history.
What are my options?
I like the company but not him. I am on very good package and don't want to lose my job. I like to complain about his attitude but i don't know if it will resolve anything and things may get worse.
I have been looking around, but I haven’t found much that is similar to the salary and benefits. I really need to stay close to home, as i am the only earner in my family, my wife has a disability and we have young children. I also have a medical condition called Hyperhidrosis, which effects my confidence. I’ve had this since i was 14, i can't even shake my hands with anyone, because of sweaty palms, feet and under my arms.
I have never told this to anyone, i am just managing it. It does effect my day to day life a lot, like when i am on the phone talking to group of people or giving software demos. It just knocks my confidence everytime I’m put in a situation, which causes me to sweat more.
It happened again today.
Last week my manager told me that he will come back to me on something which he never did. Today, in the stand up meeting i told him that i have been waiting on you to confirm if i need to work on certain piece, and he said i have already told you it is not required. He just lied.
I have never told this to anyone, i am just managing it. It does effect my day to day life a lot, like when i am on the phone talking to group of people or giving software demos. It just knocks my confidence everytime I’m put in a situation, which causes me to sweat more.
It happened again today.
Last week my manager told me that he will come back to me on something which he never did. Today, in the stand up meeting i told him that i have been waiting on you to confirm if i need to work on certain piece, and he said i have already told you it is not required. He just lied.
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