8.2 Milion living alone
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According to the ONS 8.2 Million people in the UK are living alone.
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2019/11/15/middle...
They put this down to various reasons. Men marrying at an ever later age. Divorces. Women don't rely on men financially so much etc. I would add that many guys don't want to get married, some even eschew relationships all together. I don't think it's because they cant pull, I get the impression they are content in themselves. And prefer to spend time doing their interests and hobbies. Or spending time with their mates in pubs, or doing activities without having to "check with SWMBO" before saying Yes to a weekend break in Munich/ Ibiza
As is often the way, the Japanese are way ahead of us. Again delayed or no marriage appears to be at the root.
https://www.rethinktokyo.com/Hitorigurashi-living-...
I would imagine PH is 95%+ Male.
Wondered if this was a fair reflection?
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2019/11/15/middle...
article said:
It rose from 6.8million in 1999 to 8.2million in 2019, with the majority of this increase driven by the growth in the numbers of men - predominantly aged between 45 and 64 - living alone (72.1%).
I'm not quite in that age bracket But They put this down to various reasons. Men marrying at an ever later age. Divorces. Women don't rely on men financially so much etc. I would add that many guys don't want to get married, some even eschew relationships all together. I don't think it's because they cant pull, I get the impression they are content in themselves. And prefer to spend time doing their interests and hobbies. Or spending time with their mates in pubs, or doing activities without having to "check with SWMBO" before saying Yes to a weekend break in Munich/ Ibiza
As is often the way, the Japanese are way ahead of us. Again delayed or no marriage appears to be at the root.
https://www.rethinktokyo.com/Hitorigurashi-living-...
I would imagine PH is 95%+ Male.
Wondered if this was a fair reflection?
Our road has about thirty 3/4/5 bedroom houses and not so long ago more than half od them had a single occupant, with two exceptions they were men. A few have died / left in the last few years and generally young families have moved in which has brught a bit life back to the road. The houses either side of me still have lone occupants, both blokes whose wives died of cancer some years ago.
S1KRR said:
As is often the way, the Japanese are way ahead of us. Again delayed or no marriage appears to be at the root.
https://www.rethinktokyo.com/Hitorigurashi-living-...
I would imagine PH is 95%+ Male.
Wondered if this was a fair reflection?
I wouldn't hold up the Japanese situation as a positive. Quite a high suicide rate. According to Wiki 70% are men. https://www.rethinktokyo.com/Hitorigurashi-living-...
I would imagine PH is 95%+ Male.
Wondered if this was a fair reflection?
I remember from my psych rotation, being married is actually a protective factor for men's health (both physical and mental).
Interesting. I think it’s a perfect storm of many different factors:
People placing less value on rushing into finding a partner or getting married.
Increase in divorce rates.
Couples less willing to stay with together through ‘thick and thin’.
Having children later or not at all.
Busy lives and busy careers.
Not having time to meet a partner.
I know a few people 35-40 who have been with a partner maybe 10 years or so, but then separated before they had children, are now single aged late 30’s and almost can’t be bothered to go through the ‘hassle’ of meeting people again and moving in with each other, and so on.
People placing less value on rushing into finding a partner or getting married.
Increase in divorce rates.
Couples less willing to stay with together through ‘thick and thin’.
Having children later or not at all.
Busy lives and busy careers.
Not having time to meet a partner.
I know a few people 35-40 who have been with a partner maybe 10 years or so, but then separated before they had children, are now single aged late 30’s and almost can’t be bothered to go through the ‘hassle’ of meeting people again and moving in with each other, and so on.
g3org3y said:
I remember from my psych rotation, being married is actually a protective factor for men's health (both physical and mental).
The phrase I believe is "can't live with them, can't live without them". I think it that's more acceptable for blokes to live together nowadays (not in a gay sense, i meant even as friends/companions) whereas not an issue for women.I live alone in a small village, the feeling of isolation can be crushing at times but I'm getting on for 50 and my god every woman you meet at my age are so high bloody maintenance with borderline personality issues.
There's a reason they're single!!
Really don't think I can be arsed anymore.
My dad lives alone too in a city in a really rough area, I'm thinking about getting him to move in with me, he's 70 might be nice for him to see out his years in a little village.
There's a reason they're single!!
Really don't think I can be arsed anymore.
My dad lives alone too in a city in a really rough area, I'm thinking about getting him to move in with me, he's 70 might be nice for him to see out his years in a little village.
anonymous said:
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Thing is many looking from the outside in assume living alone automatically means being lonely. Especially for blokes who generally tend to have a smaller number of friends than women.Nothing is further from the truth. And nothing is more lonely than a relationship living with or worse, being married to, the wrong person.
I was married for 15 years then divorced. Now live alone.
Have a girlfriend living 10 miles alone who I trust totally I see once in the week and most Saturday and Sunday evenings and we regularly go away together. But we like our own space and would not consider for one minute moving in together or getting married going down the 'bag for life' route lol as the magic would instantly be lost. She sees her mates regularly as do I and we have our own lives and interests which keeps things fresh. Trust is a big part of it I guess.
Perfect relationship imo.
I've lived alone for four years. I enjoy having my own space, not having set meal times, being able to have naps whenever and wherever I like. I lived with my ex before living alone, and I don't think I'd ever do it again. Why would I live with someone and have to compromise on everything, when I can live alone and do as I please?
When I was single, I rarely felt "alone". Unless you have social anxiety issues, you can always find new friends by joining a sports club or other society or could meet new people from Meetup.com. And then there's things like Facebook and even forums. The latter made me definitely feel like I was not alone even when I couldn't be arsed to go out.
I'm thirty one and single, I live alone and have for two years. I don't have a problem with it and quite enjoy the freedom but both my work and social lives keep me busy and active, so I have few complaints. Prior to this I was in a seven year relationship, we lived together for around five and a half years.
I imagine that it would be far tougher for an older person who may be retired, with more spare time on their hands, particularly if money is tough or they have a small social circle, loneliness can be a terrible thing.
I imagine that it would be far tougher for an older person who may be retired, with more spare time on their hands, particularly if money is tough or they have a small social circle, loneliness can be a terrible thing.
I live by myself, it does have its downsides but then again I can live safely in the knowledge that my house and everything within it is 100% legally mine. My philosophy has been that I'd much rather be in a happy relationship than single, but I'd much rather be single than stuck in an unhappy or loveless relationship.
Sheets Tabuer said:
My dad lives alone too in a city in a really rough area, I'm thinking about getting him to move in with me, he's 70 might be nice for him to see out his years in a little village.
A wonderful thing to do, it will be a lot of effort but the wonder of knowing he feels safe and cared for is a fine goal if you can make it work.Well done Sir.
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