Am I mean, £1200 per month on household?

[NEWANON4]

(long standing member posting under anon)

So, me and ball & chain are regularly arguing about money.

I am the main earner in our household, so I pay the mortgage, house insurance, life insurance, utilities, council tax, netflix, internet and both car insurance and tax. Basically all the bills. I also pay for any car repairs, holidays & house maintenance.

My partner has a low income of £800 a month from DLA, Child benefit and careers allowance. I also put £400 a month in to their bank account. Bringing it up to £1200 per month.

From that they have to pay for their mobile bill (£30pm), petrol, clothes, hair, nails and household groceries for use two and our autistic child.

My partner thinks this is not possible, but in my opinion a lot of people have no where near that much left after mortgage, etc and that should be manageable.

I'm actually quite offended that their unhappy and moaning at me, I cant help feel they are ungrateful. I want us to be able to save for unexpected bills, our future and pay off some debts, so am worried about money.

Am I being unrealistic in how far I think the money should go?

[NEWANON4]

I'm self employed so income varies.

Is around £2500 to £3000 per month.

mortgage595
ellecy and gas100
council tax140
water35
tv12.5
broadband40
netflix7.49
Transfer partner 400
car tax & insurance both cars100
fuel150
mobile25
house insurance25
tesco loan202
cc min pay150

Total 1981.99

Now add to that the occasional trip away, house maintenance, car maintenance and saving.

Things are tight