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Best friend of 13 years who has been there through some very hard times with me is struggling.
Been diagnosed with bladder cancer in April 2017 and was given 6 Months. Amazingly she has been perfect and full of life up until around 2 weeks ago when she started to lose weight.
She is starting to struggle now and not eating as much nor as interested in wanting to go for a walk.
I have had dog's in the past and have had to go through the pain of having them put down but my heart is totally breaking.
Not going into details about my life but it's not been great to say the least. My friend has been there for me in some very dark times and now I am unable to help her as she is fading away.
I know it's not fair to try and keep her going just for me if she is starting to struggle but I am really struggling seeing the end on the horizon.
Taking her to the vet tomorrow to get a professional view but I know what the answer is going to be.
Christ life is hard.
Been diagnosed with bladder cancer in April 2017 and was given 6 Months. Amazingly she has been perfect and full of life up until around 2 weeks ago when she started to lose weight.
She is starting to struggle now and not eating as much nor as interested in wanting to go for a walk.
I have had dog's in the past and have had to go through the pain of having them put down but my heart is totally breaking.
Not going into details about my life but it's not been great to say the least. My friend has been there for me in some very dark times and now I am unable to help her as she is fading away.
I know it's not fair to try and keep her going just for me if she is starting to struggle but I am really struggling seeing the end on the horizon.
Taking her to the vet tomorrow to get a professional view but I know what the answer is going to be.
Christ life is hard.
Thank you everyone for your kind words.
The whole family is struggling but I am trying to keep it together to keep them all calm hence why I had to let off steam on here.
Strange thing is she has now perked up a bit which makes things even harder.
The tail keeps going all the time and she looks up when she hear's our voices.
Again thank you all.
The whole family is struggling but I am trying to keep it together to keep them all calm hence why I had to let off steam on here.
Strange thing is she has now perked up a bit which makes things even harder.
The tail keeps going all the time and she looks up when she hear's our voices.
Again thank you all.
Berkshire bred said:
Christ this thread hits home. I've had my dog since I was 7 and him 5 months, he is now 15 and fortunately still healthy, happy and active. Sadly though I know that sooner rather than later im going to have to deal with what your going through and to be honest I have no idea how I'm going to cope, if at all.
I know it's only words over an internet forum from a stranger but I feel so bloody sorry for you, all the worse as there is nothing that can be done. There really is nothing helpful I can say other than I can appreciate what your going through.
I think it's hard mentioning it to anyone outside the family situation. If someone is not into having a pet then they basically think your a bit mad getting upset about an animal. This is why posting on a forum in a pet section helps as others have been there or just have a pet.I know it's only words over an internet forum from a stranger but I feel so bloody sorry for you, all the worse as there is nothing that can be done. There really is nothing helpful I can say other than I can appreciate what your going through.
But as you know they really are part of the family. Every memory for the last 13 years has the dog in the big picture.
The dog clearly can't speak but then have a connection with you and knows when you need some support. That same connection is now telling me that she is starting to have enough of the fight.
After losing the family pet when I was younger and going through watching it being put down I was against wanting another dog as it was very painful. But the last 13 years have been extremely special. She has made the house a home and just been the perfect dog. I am sure everyone says that about their dog.
Thank you for your words as it means a lot.
Turn7 said:
Ad I said above, I have cried myself to sleep after coming back from the vets alone.
Its a truly hatefull decision to have to make, but one the needs to be made....
I genuinely feel your pain dude, but its for the best , sadly....
Whilst it may seem glib, and Im no poest, Shakespeare said it is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.....
These applies to our furry family as well........
Yes that quote is spot on.Its a truly hatefull decision to have to make, but one the needs to be made....
I genuinely feel your pain dude, but its for the best , sadly....
Whilst it may seem glib, and Im no poest, Shakespeare said it is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.....
These applies to our furry family as well........
She has had a wonderful life and that's what I am concentrating on.
It's hard knowing it is us who makes the decision to have our friend put to sleep when it is the last thing anyone wants to do.
Wish she would pass away in her sleep but I don't want her to suffer.
keirik said:
very sorry to hear his, but please don't hang on just because "she's perked up", dogs don't show the pain they're in, so it's up to us as their guardian to do the right thing for them and not for us
Yes I know even if she perks up it will not last. She has a terminal prognosis and it is clearly now in it's final stages.I have never been one to hold on for my sake with any past pet. Just finding this one very hard but she will not suffer.
No one wants to see an animal struggling. It's not what her life was about.
TR4man said:
So sorry to read this.
I've been through it three times now with our labs. The most recent wast last December and seven months on, the house seems so empty without a dog but my wife and I can't bring ourselves to have another.
The consolation you have have is that you have provided them with the best life they could have hoped for - plenty of love, food, safety, warmth and shelter. They give so much and yet that is all they ask of us.
My last dog was a Lab. It was such a lovely kind dog but you will know this with the breed.I've been through it three times now with our labs. The most recent wast last December and seven months on, the house seems so empty without a dog but my wife and I can't bring ourselves to have another.
The consolation you have have is that you have provided them with the best life they could have hoped for - plenty of love, food, safety, warmth and shelter. They give so much and yet that is all they ask of us.
That was bl**** painful. Can still remember the day I was there with her.
That was enough for me so I thought but when Molly came along it was just at the right time.
I would have wanted a Lab again but I was amazed how great a breed the Cocker Spaniel is. Yes totally loopy at a young age but so loving.
Feel for you and your family. Seven Months is not long and it must still hurt.
My heart goes out to anyone who has been through this. Just not looking forward to the next bit.
HTP99 said:
Nothing really to add to this thread but I'm in tears reading it, I've only had to make that decision on a dog once, it is hard but the correct one.
Thinking of you OP.
Thank you. Thinking of you OP.
As you say it's hard but the correct decision.
Scratch that it's ******* hard.
Sorry about upsetting you. Think it hits a nerve when you have lost your own.
moorx said:
I think this comic strip (unlikely I know) sums it up well, but it can be hard to read under the circumstances:
http://ubertoolcomic.com/?comic=no-97
Bloody hell.http://ubertoolcomic.com/?comic=no-97
That got me right in the heart.
Very moving piece.
She just got up and came and waited until I picked her up as she struggled to jump onto the chair.
Now sleeping with her head on my lap.
I know it's now time so I am going to ask the vet to come to the house tomorrow rather than getting her assessed.
I want her at home at the end.
garythesign said:
Your heart will repair, although there will always be an element of sadness.
If we didn’t suffer the sadness we would never know joy.
It’s a trite saying, but time is a great healer.
Molly looked lovely.
Thank you mate. If we didn’t suffer the sadness we would never know joy.
It’s a trite saying, but time is a great healer.
Molly looked lovely.
The joy she gave was huge so you can't have that and not suffer when it goes.
Why does everything you now see on TV got to do with dogs.
Isn't it just typical.
HustleRussell said:
I'm very sorry. I hope your experience, while devastating, wasn't too harrowing. The comparatively empty house is tough to contend with for a while 
but you should look back with pride on how that creature enjoyed such a charmed existence for such a long time as your companion.
Thank you mate. but you should look back with pride on how that creature enjoyed such a charmed existence for such a long time as your companion. It was not exactly straight forward as they were struggling to find a vein.
Had to try a number of area's but she was thankfully sedated.
It was myself that was struggling with that bit.
It's crazy that you love something so much yet the best way to love that being is to have it put down.
Anyway as much as it hurt she is at peace.
Edited by anonymous-user on Monday 16th July 19:41
Mezzanine said:
How sad. I have been thinking about you all day.
We had to have our Cocker put to sleep in November and it has still left a massive hole in our house. It does get easier but you never forget. I use the dog pictures thread on this forum as some slight relief/therapy.
Thoughts are with you Jim and of course the lovely Molly
Thank you so much.We had to have our Cocker put to sleep in November and it has still left a massive hole in our house. It does get easier but you never forget. I use the dog pictures thread on this forum as some slight relief/therapy.
Thoughts are with you Jim and of course the lovely Molly
I am sorry for your loss. As you say it gets easier but you never forget.
She is actually resting at a pet crematorium. The place is beautiful and a family run business. It was extremely hard to leave her but we are in rental accommodation just now so can't obviously keep her here. That was hard to accept.
Edited by anonymous-user on Monday 16th July 19:43
Berkshire bred said:
Nothing helpful to add that hasn't already been said, this thread really is making me appreciate my time left with my ageing friend. Struggling to type this as this thread has really got me In the heart. I hope you find some way to start dealing with your loss when the time is right. All the best mate.
Thank you.Finding tonight very hard. Can't face packing her things away yet. So many memories.
She was so affectionate and just knew if you were having a bad day or upset about something. She did this for the whole family.
Think seeing everyone struggling so much tonight is making it even harder.
derbyjim said:
Why... why... why would you do that to me?!!
From one Jim to another Op, such a beautiful pup. You did the right thing by her when she needed it and from your words I’m sure she had such a fantastic life.
Remember what you gave her and she’s in no pain now. Maaan, they get under your skin.
Couldn't agree more mate. They sure do know how to make you happy and to make you love them.From one Jim to another Op, such a beautiful pup. You did the right thing by her when she needed it and from your words I’m sure she had such a fantastic life.
Remember what you gave her and she’s in no pain now. Maaan, they get under your skin.
Thank you for posting.
kuro said:
Tough to read this. Having gone through the same twenty years ago it brings it all back.
Rest in peace now Molly.
Thank you.Rest in peace now Molly.
It was 2002 when the family Lab was put to sleep. That was horrendous as well.
But along out of the blue came Molly. The fun and joy she has given is priceless.
You just wish you could have them forever but that is just not what life is about.
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