Match.com (Volume 5)
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TonyHetherington said:
So, after a 5 1/2 year relationship I suddenly find myself here.
We're literally just going through splitting up now - sorting all the bits and bobs, but it's a very mutual decision and is certainly not going to be gone back on. A real real shame, we're both sad of course, but determined to get on as quickly as possible.
As such, I find myself looking at dating sites. My oh my! I want to make myself a profile to see where the lie of the land is, as it were, but it seems a mine field.
I'm 31, confidence is not exactly an issue (those that know me will know that
) and I've been fairly lucky in the past with stuff like this (my last dating type thing was 5 1/2yrs ago at a speed dating event and I got "yes" from every girl bar one, so fingers crossed I've not changed too much!).
But urrrmmmmm, well - here I am. My name's Tony and I'm single.
Sorry to hear it fella. We're literally just going through splitting up now - sorting all the bits and bobs, but it's a very mutual decision and is certainly not going to be gone back on. A real real shame, we're both sad of course, but determined to get on as quickly as possible.
As such, I find myself looking at dating sites. My oh my! I want to make myself a profile to see where the lie of the land is, as it were, but it seems a mine field.
I'm 31, confidence is not exactly an issue (those that know me will know that
) and I've been fairly lucky in the past with stuff like this (my last dating type thing was 5 1/2yrs ago at a speed dating event and I got "yes" from every girl bar one, so fingers crossed I've not changed too much!).But urrrmmmmm, well - here I am. My name's Tony and I'm single.
Sadly, times have moved on, and you will have to have read all of 'Twilight', 'The Hunger Games' and '50 Shades Of Grey' to hold a conversation.
Carthage said:
I have always felt like a social misfit; I don't necessarily blame other people for this.
I generally get on ok with people, but that's because I monitor relationships quite carefully to try to conform. In some ways this has been an advantage, as because I am more socially aware than most, I tend to be the person that people confide in, and am oddly in demand when people try to pick their office mates at work (we're all moving to a different location), etc. So being weird isn't always a problem.
It can be in relationships though - where someone is constantly wanting you to be something you are not - and making your life difficult as a consequence.
That sounds very much like you're on the ASD spectrum.I generally get on ok with people, but that's because I monitor relationships quite carefully to try to conform. In some ways this has been an advantage, as because I am more socially aware than most, I tend to be the person that people confide in, and am oddly in demand when people try to pick their office mates at work (we're all moving to a different location), etc. So being weird isn't always a problem.
It can be in relationships though - where someone is constantly wanting you to be something you are not - and making your life difficult as a consequence.
Carthage said:
Justayellowbadge said:
ASD is behavioural, not learning.
Yes, you're right.I just tend to focus on learning difficulties aspects as education's my line of work, and Aspergers in particular has a serious effect. (But I'm still not ASD spectrum).
I freely admit to being below standard, JAYB, you don't have to reinforce it.
poprock said:
I had trouble with the ‘other’ kind of talk. Telling all the girls I was dating (definitely not exclusively) that I wan’t seeing them any more because I’d met someone I wanted to settle down with. I think I got a bit cynical and cold about it by the time I made it to the last one or two. Really didn’t mean to …
Wow, you are so moneysupermarket.mat777 said:
On the upside, this coming week is Bristol freshers week. I intend to be out every night, mostly in the clubs with a reputation for the least fussy totty.
Wish me luck!
The absolute best you can hope for by way of a result is a not guilty verdict.Wish me luck!
Edited by mat777 on Sunday 30th September 23:07
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