I'm struggling here, help.
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I'm not having a good time at the moment.
Last year, my wife and I had 2 failed IVFs, my younger sister was diagnosed with lung cancer and died at Christmas and I was made redundant at work.
I now have a new job but my sister's death had a big impact on my parents and my father subsequently had a heart attack and died last week after four weeks in intensive care.
The main issue I have is I'm struggling to cope with my Dad's wife, who was obnoxious before and is completely intolerable now. Obviously she is the only one allowed to be upset as my Dad was the only person in the world that would put up with her and now she is alone.
I've spent the past month driving her around, buying her lunches and generally putting up with her vitriol to no gratitude whatsoever. She insists on controlling everything but needs help with it all. She's even taken to taunting me about the will in which everything was signed over to her allegedly.
I'm past caring about money but we still have the funeral to deal with. How much more crap should I have to take from her? My wife thinks I should put up with it all for another couple of weeks until the funeral is over. I'd agree but am really at the limit of my tolerance.
Oh well, that's my lot. I've had a few to drink and vented. It's been therapeutic. Thanks for listening. J.
Last year, my wife and I had 2 failed IVFs, my younger sister was diagnosed with lung cancer and died at Christmas and I was made redundant at work.
I now have a new job but my sister's death had a big impact on my parents and my father subsequently had a heart attack and died last week after four weeks in intensive care.
The main issue I have is I'm struggling to cope with my Dad's wife, who was obnoxious before and is completely intolerable now. Obviously she is the only one allowed to be upset as my Dad was the only person in the world that would put up with her and now she is alone.
I've spent the past month driving her around, buying her lunches and generally putting up with her vitriol to no gratitude whatsoever. She insists on controlling everything but needs help with it all. She's even taken to taunting me about the will in which everything was signed over to her allegedly.
I'm past caring about money but we still have the funeral to deal with. How much more crap should I have to take from her? My wife thinks I should put up with it all for another couple of weeks until the funeral is over. I'd agree but am really at the limit of my tolerance.
Oh well, that's my lot. I've had a few to drink and vented. It's been therapeutic. Thanks for listening. J.
Thanks everyone for your kind thoughts and advice.
HTP99 and Kilty2, your posts sounds all too familiar. I'm glad it's all relatively in the past for you now.
As suggested, I'll keep going until the funeral is over (10 days to go) and then ignore her as much as possible. I really don't need the hassle.
Some good advice, a bit of sleep and a blue sky morning and I'm feeling a lot less wound up now. Thanks for letting me get it off my chest. J.
HTP99 and Kilty2, your posts sounds all too familiar. I'm glad it's all relatively in the past for you now.
As suggested, I'll keep going until the funeral is over (10 days to go) and then ignore her as much as possible. I really don't need the hassle.
Some good advice, a bit of sleep and a blue sky morning and I'm feeling a lot less wound up now. Thanks for letting me get it off my chest. J.
Thanks all for your advice and support.
My OH persuaded me to go and meet face to face with her at the weekend but I couldn't retain my composure and ended up giving her an earful.
She moved the grave plot the next day from beside my sister (Dad's wishes) to another part of the burial ground so that she can be buried with my Dad and not be near my sister as they didn't get on either.
I'm tired of all this ill feeling and just want to say goodbye to my Dad in peace and move on.
We'll behave at the funeral, I'm sure. This time next week, it'll all be over.
My OH persuaded me to go and meet face to face with her at the weekend but I couldn't retain my composure and ended up giving her an earful.
She moved the grave plot the next day from beside my sister (Dad's wishes) to another part of the burial ground so that she can be buried with my Dad and not be near my sister as they didn't get on either.
I'm tired of all this ill feeling and just want to say goodbye to my Dad in peace and move on.
We'll behave at the funeral, I'm sure. This time next week, it'll all be over.
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