Too selfish for a girlfriend?

[HuntD]

I have been with my current girlfriend for 2 years but she only earns minimum wage and only ever will, this doesn't affect how much I love her or how special a person she is but what it does mean is if I want to do something that she can't afford I either have to pay for her, not do it at all, or do it on my own which will put her in a mood which will consequently put me in a mood.

The problem is I can't afford/don't want to pay for everything I want twice and when I tell her this she gets in a mood with me and her argument is always a moronic one "you have <insert expensive possession> but you won't pay for me".

For example a week long holiday with first class tickets in a nice hotel and activities every day is affordable when you go with friends everyone pays for themselves, but the price doubles when you have to pay for your girlfriend and it gets to a point where I'd rather not bother.

I know when there is a pay imbalance things will never be equal but she pays nothing to the mortgage or household bills, so what she earns is 100% disposal.

Am I being unreasonable or selfish? I'm still in my twenties so maybe I should stay single until later in life when I'm less bothered about having fun and new experiences.

[HuntD]

Interesting replies, so here's a bit more information.

She comes from a poor background and isn't materialistic, probably because she's never had anything. She is an experienced hairdresser but it only pays minimum wage and always will do.

She doesn't ask that I buy her anything , and she does occassionally treat me (and spoils me at Christmas and birthdays).

It's more the case of anything I do she wants to do, but she often can't afford it so get's upset, so I either have to pay for her or don't do it at all. That makes some things a lot more expensive than they already are or stops me doing things entirely.

[HuntD]

Du1point8 said:

So your OH will never earn more than the national average, yet you got millions straight out of Uni despite only getting 2-4% yearly increases every year since you left Uni 6 years ago.

Can I work in the same place that is offering enough to pay for first class travel and 5* hotels all the time despite the bare minimum of salary increases over the last 6years?

You telling us porkies or you a trust fund kiddy?

So you are suggesting a lower rate tax payer cannot possible afford a first class ticket? I am surprised, given that it still means an earning of up to £45k.

Either way all of my comments remain true.

What is your favourite brand of custard?

[HuntD]

I'm not sure what response people want from me but I am surprised at the hostility towards first class air travel, it's definitely not as expensive as some people are making out. I recently paid £2200 return per person for upper class with Virgin Atlantic to go Vegas, hardly the £5k people are taking about here.

Some people definitely did not read my original post in the context it was written, I don't care how much my partner earns but I do care about being held back from doing the things I want and I asked if that was selfish.

[HuntD]

There is a massive misconception here about my finances, while the contents of all my posts are correct they are obviously only a synopsis of the whole situation. I don't want to post the specifics on here for obvious reasons not to mention talking about money is a little crass, but at the same time I feel like the custard test might calm a few of you down, although perhaps not.

For the record I did take her to Vegas on a separate trip and yes we did go premium economy…