Opting out of fatherhood

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Interesting article/view here on 'financial abortion', i.e. fathers 'caught' by women not having to be responsible...

https://mobile.abc.net.au/news/2016-12-04/financia...

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desolate said:

bga said:

Fortunately messrs Durex, Skyn, Mates & others provide men with an option that while not perfect, gives them the ability to significantly reduce the likelihood of an unintended pregnancy.

For any of us males that are concerned that breasted ophidians want to ruin our lives through financial entrapment then the solution is simple - bag it up.

This entirely. It's life changing stuff so take responsibility for it.

If it causes your Mrs a problem then probably time for a change.

The problem is that you're in a long term relationship, having fun, she's on the pill, no problem and then all of a sudden it could be 'I've been a bit unwell recently' or 'I forgot to take one' or.... and you're totally stuffed. There you are having a nice time and all of a sudden a life changing event happens. Maybe she was stupid, lazy about taking the pill or simply wanted a baby like she wanted a car, house, handbag, etc.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing but men don't sit in relationships thinking 'At some point she'll try to stitch me up for life'. If their partner says she's on the pill for example you trust her to tell you if she thinks there's any danger of it not working.

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ATG said:

Bill said:

ATG said:

Bloke has to make it clear BEFORE the woman gets knocked up that he is opting out of parental responsibilities. That way women who don't think an abortion is morally equivalent to sneezing can choose whether to take the risk of getting up the duff by a bloke who will walk away from a pregnancy. If the woman isn't prepared to take that risk, fine, she needs to find a new partner.

That's unworkable because it gets you into a he said she said scenario.

It's perfectly workable. If bloke wants to be able to opt out, he needs her signature on a bit of paper saying "he does not want kids". If he choses to pork someone before getting her to sign, it's his decision and he doesn't get to walk away.

It's fine in practice but in the throws of a one night stand or relationship it's quite a thing to do. She will know it basically says, you're on your own if you get preggers. Like a prenuptial agreement. Bit of a relationship/passion killer.

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anonymous said:

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It is a great idea IF you're 100% sure but when younger, relationships come and go (excuse the pun ) and men don't know what they want generally. All of a sudden the female hey are with says 'I'm in the club' and.....