Finding my birth mother

[Joat]

Looking for some advice and maybe somebody on here who may have had the experience of finding their birth mother.

My adoptive parents have never kept anything from me and from an early age I've known about my adoption and the circumstances that surrounded it.

I do have some information, such as - date of birth, place of birth, name my birth mother gave me, the place I was handed over to my adoptive parents and the adoption society used.

I'm not of a young age to be looking for my birth mother, I'm almost 62 which would put her, in her early 80's. Chances of her still being alive are a bit slim I know, but I'd still like to know who she became, did she have a happy life, I do hope so.

Many thanks.

[Joat]

I knew it might be a mixed bag of responses and yes I know it might not be the outcome I might have dreamt about, but it's something I need to do before it's too late.

I'm really interested to find out who she is/was rather than meeting up, it might be that she started a new life and that I'm her secret, things were very different back then if you know what I mean.

Thanks for the replies so far.

[Joat]

Blib said:

I HIGHLY recommend this woman.

https://arielbruce.com/

ETA: OP I've just PMed you.

Edited by Blib on Monday 24th August 17:08

Thanks for the email Blib.

[Joat]

bhstewie said:

Interesting thread and not something most people ever have to think about.

Firstly best of luck

I can't put myself in your shoes but I guess one of my first thoughts was 62 years seems a long time to wait.

Tell me mind my own but I'm curious why now?

Mmmmmm I see quite a number of people are wondering why I've left it so long, it's difficult to answer and unless you've been adopted yourself you might not understand.

I've only known Mum and Dad, they are my 'real parents' and they have been fantastic to me and my elder sister. For a long time though I've thought about finding my birth mother, but I've felt a bit guilty, what I didn't want to do was upset my parents into thinking I wanted a substitute for them. Hope this makes sense.

With this covid 19 hanging over us it's difficult to get to see Mum (Dad passed away 10 years ago), but I managed to see her this past weekend. Just by chance in conversation we dropped onto adoption and I thought this is a good a time as any to ask if she would mind if I searched for my birth mother.

Thankfully she's happy with it and supportive too.

[Joat]

Thanks to all who have replied with advice and personal experiences, it's very much appreciated.

When / if I manage to find information I will share it with you.