What's the best anti spam software then?

[philthy]

After having my own domain name, and personal email address kept private for a couple of years, I'm now getting spam. Strangely, it coincides with my missus starting to get the same stuff. She hardly ever uses email, and keeps her address very private, same as me. The only thing we can put it down to, is somebody close to us, that has us both in their address book, has a virus.
Anyhoo, can anybody recommend good spam filtering software. I'm prepared to spend long hours training it, if need be.
Thanks in advance
Phil

[philthy]

Figuring that Ted would get a mountain of spam everyday, and would know what works, I've got the 30 day trial version of safetybar installed. I've got to say, pretty bloody impressed!!! It has picked up everything, even going back through my inbox, and finding phishing scams.
I've also downloaded mailwasher, to try after a week or so. I like the idea of being able to use my hotmail accounts with the spam filter turned off, so it might be in with a shout. The only thing against them, is safetybar downloads the mail, then checks it (easy for the missus to use) mailwasher connects to your mail server, for you to delete the spam (not looking forward to explaining that to the wife).
Changing ISP isn't really an option for me, but thanks anyway.
I'll let you know how it goes.
Phil
Ps, Ted if I go with the safetybar, I'll stick you down as the referrer.

[philthy]

simpo two said:

If the spam is actuially downloaded, can't the spammers tell that it's an active account? That's why, IIRC, deleting it at the server is best.

I'll be honest, I have no idea. Hopefully somebody on here will. If that is the case, another feather in mailwashers cap.
Phil