Anyone else's wife faff about un-necessarily?

[Gigamoons]

J4CKO said:

She keeps announcing her total is now £73, £78 etc.

She went out to post them, in her car the other day to some drop box, so couldn't get to one, went to another, came back all ratty.

So has used petrol and time, plus the bags to send it out in, £40 on printer carts for the labels.

So the money is largely eaten up, but it gets rid of it and seems part of a bigger project to declutter the house, my areas are pretty tidy, i.e. the sheds, the garage and anywhere that may harbour spiders, her bits are piled high with crap but she is tackling it and doesnt seem to have any urge to buy any more. Which is good.

Yeah, after time and costs it’s breaking even at best.

But when a woman is in declutterring mode, no matter how flawed the methodology, the only correct response is praise and encouragement.

[Hondashark]

J4CKO said:

She keeps announcing her total is now £73, £78 etc.

She went out to post them, in her car the other day to some drop box, so couldn't get to one, went to another, came back all ratty.

So has used petrol and time, plus the bags to send it out in, £40 on printer carts for the labels.

So the money is largely eaten up, but it gets rid of it and seems part of a bigger project to declutter the house, my areas are pretty tidy, i.e. the sheds, the garage and anywhere that may harbour spiders, her bits are piled high with crap but she is tackling it and doesnt seem to have any urge to buy any more. Which is good.

Why is she printing her own labels? Yodel, Inpost, Evri etc all offer label printing when you drop it off.

[Nexus Icon]

Mine bought herself an afternoon in A&E for her faffing. 15 minutes before we were due to set off the 100 miles to Southampton to visit my mum in hospital she decided some pruning in the garden just couldn't wait. 20 minutes into the journey she complains her eyes are itching. After another 10 minutes she appears to have lost a bout with Mike Tyson... I spin the car around and race back to the JR hospital in Oxford (anyone who knows the hospital, and the local routes thereto, know there is no racing going on) where she discovers the Euphorbia she pruned can have a devastating affect on the corneas. Cue 4 hours of saline irrigation, steroid drops, anti-histamines, lubricants (ooer, missus) and a lot of squinting. Sorry, mum, I'll come visit you soon.

[RustyMX5]

Nexus Icon said:

Mine bought herself an afternoon in A&E for her faffing. 15 minutes before we were due to set off the 100 miles to Southampton to visit my mum in hospital she decided some pruning in the garden just couldn't wait. 20 minutes into the journey she complains her eyes are itching. After another 10 minutes she appears to have lost a bout with Mike Tyson... I spin the car around and race back to the JR hospital in Oxford (anyone who knows the hospital, and the local routes thereto, know there is no racing going on) where she discovers the Euphorbia she pruned can have a devastating affect on the corneas. Cue 4 hours of saline irrigation, steroid drops, anti-histamines, lubricants (ooer, missus) and a lot of squinting. Sorry, mum, I'll come visit you soon.

I know JR quite well and yes, it's a hideous place to get to in a hurry. It could have been worse though. You could have gone to Stoke Mandeville instead.

[djohnson]

I always have to smile at Mrs J’s planning for prescriptions. Both of us have regular prescriptions for minor things (statin in my case). Now for me it’s an entirely minor and totally effort free process, I have the NHS app, I can see when I’m down to a couple of weeks tablets and I simply press the button on the app, doctor approves snd sends to chemist for me, chemist text messages me a day or so later and I pick up when driving past. Easy, really easy. Mrs J on the other hand, doesn’t use the app, preferring to take the hard copy form to the doctors for each prescription, this is always left until the last minute when she has a tiny quantity of tablets left. It then normally involves chaos, the form has to be located (normally screwed up in a bag / car / draw etc), often I have to drive the document to the doctors, there is much discussion and panic around how long the doctor will take to process and whether they will realise it’s so late and prioritise, there’s then a mad dash to the chemist (often minutes before it closes) often I have to drive down to achieve this. She’s off away for 5 nights with her friends early hours of Thur, currently had 3 days of tablets left and prescription went to doctors yesterday afternoon!

[J4CKO]

Hondashark said:

J4CKO said:

She keeps announcing her total is now £73, £78 etc.

She went out to post them, in her car the other day to some drop box, so couldn't get to one, went to another, came back all ratty.

So has used petrol and time, plus the bags to send it out in, £40 on printer carts for the labels.

So the money is largely eaten up, but it gets rid of it and seems part of a bigger project to declutter the house, my areas are pretty tidy, i.e. the sheds, the garage and anywhere that may harbour spiders, her bits are piled high with crap but she is tackling it and doesnt seem to have any urge to buy any more. Which is good.

Why is she printing her own labels? Yodel, Inpost, Evri etc all offer label printing when you drop it off.

Dunno, think there is other stuff being returned, I am aware as you uses her incredible IT printer issue diagnosis skills, which involves shouting at it a bit like Basil Fawlty and his Austin 1100, stomping about the house and generally involving me in her problem but wont let me actually let me look, a bit like when the dog presents you with a toy to throw, but wont let go.

But, she is on it, rooms are being decluttered, stuff sold or sent to the charity shop so cant complain. Now wanting to decorate, we now have a bloke coming to quote for a wooden floor, will need to sell all her clothes on Vinted for that based on the early ball park figure !

[wolfracesonic]

djohnson said:

I always have to smile at Mrs J’s planning for prescriptions. Both of us have regular prescriptions for minor things (statin in my case). Now for me it’s an entirely minor and totally effort free process, I have the NHS app, I can see when I’m down to a couple of weeks tablets and I simply press the button on the app, doctor approves snd sends to chemist for me, chemist text messages me a day or so later and I pick up when driving past. Easy, really easy. Mrs J on the other hand, doesn’t use the app, preferring to take the hard copy form to the doctors for each prescription, this is always left until the last minute when she has a tiny quantity of tablets left. It then normally involves chaos, the form has to be located (normally screwed up in a bag / car / draw etc), often I have to drive the document to the doctors, there is much discussion and panic around how long the doctor will take to process and whether they will realise it’s so late and prioritise, there’s then a mad dash to the chemist (often minutes before it closes) often I have to drive down to achieve this. She’s off away for 5 nights with her friends early hours of Thur, currently had 3 days of tablets left and prescription went to doctors yesterday afternoon!

Maybe you should ask if the doctor could prescribe anti faff tablets for her…

[Pit Pony]

djohnson said:

I always have to smile at Mrs J’s planning for prescriptions. Both of us have regular prescriptions for minor things (statin in my case). Now for me it’s an entirely minor and totally effort free process, I have the NHS app, I can see when I’m down to a couple of weeks tablets and I simply press the button on the app, doctor approves snd sends to chemist for me, chemist text messages me a day or so later and I pick up when driving past. Easy, really easy. Mrs J on the other hand, doesn’t use the app, preferring to take the hard copy form to the doctors for each prescription, this is always left until the last minute when she has a tiny quantity of tablets left. It then normally involves chaos, the form has to be located (normally screwed up in a bag / car / draw etc), often I have to drive the document to the doctors, there is much discussion and panic around how long the doctor will take to process and whether they will realise it’s so late and prioritise, there’s then a mad dash to the chemist (often minutes before it closes) often I have to drive down to achieve this. She’s off away for 5 nights with her friends early hours of Thur, currently had 3 days of tablets left and prescription went to doctors yesterday afternoon!

Have you thought about putting the app on her phone for her?

Have a recurring 4 weekly alert on my phone to remind me, and I send 2 emails to the GP one for each of us. 4 days later she gets a text message to say hers are ready and she always seems surprised by this.
For some reason I don't get a text message despite asking for the same service.

[djohnson]

Pit Pony said:

Have you thought about putting the app on her phone for her?

Have a recurring 4 weekly alert on my phone to remind me, and I send 2 emails to the GP one for each of us. 4 days later she gets a text message to say hers are ready and she always seems surprised by this.
For some reason I don't get a text message despite asking for the same service.

Good point, Mrs J isn’t keen on technology but I can try to persuade her again to use the app.

[djohnson]

J4CKO said:

Dunno, think there is other stuff being returned, I am aware as you uses her incredible IT printer issue diagnosis skills, which involves shouting at it a bit like Basil Fawlty and his Austin 1100, stomping about the house and generally involving me in her problem but wont let me actually let me look, a bit like when the dog presents you with a toy to throw, but wont let go.

They all do that, I frequently have to gently persuade Mrs J that the only way I can really contribute to fixing the problem she’s been telling me about for the last 15 minutes with her phone / iPad / tv remote / printer / laptop / other is if she actually lets go of it and lets me look and adjust it.

[Fermit]

djohnson said:

Good point, Mrs J isn’t keen on technology but I can try to persuade her again to use the app.

I'm increasingly becoming a ludite with age. My wife orders on the app, and in a few days I'll get a text to say my meds are ready

[Upinflames]

I've refrained from commenting on this thread out of fear you'd all think I was making it up.

This morning's performance though takes some beating.

We had to leave home at 11. Absolutely had to. Important appointment.

So I said, last night, "In the morning, I'll walk the dogs and make breakfast while you get ready, we'll easily be ready for 11"

I came back with the dogs

Me - "What are you doing?"

Mrs - "Oh hi, just making bread."

Me - "What's the beetroot for on the side?"

Mrs - "Oh I saw a brilliant recipe on Tiktok, I'm fermenting it!"

Me - "What, when we get back?"

Mrs - "No, it'll dry up, I'm doing it now!"

Me - "We need to leave in less than an hour"

Mrs - "Well I've got to hoover up yet!"

[5 In a Row]

They All Do That Sir

[ro250]

We're out tonight and it's a 30 min drive.

We're picking up people on the way.

She proposed leaving 20 minutes before we need to be there.

We've been to this place many times before.

I asked if we were taking the helicopter.

She did not laugh.

[Skyedriver]

Then it's your fault that you're late as you're not driving fast enough.

[Gigamoons]

ro250 said:

We're out tonight and it's a 30 min drive.

We're picking up people on the way.

She proposed leaving 20 minutes before we need to be there.

We've been to this place many times before.

I asked if we were taking the helicopter.

She did not laugh.

Top tip: he or she whom makes the arrangements, drive you there.

I find when she’s arranged us to be somewhere and pick people up and is tasked with driving, she gets her arse in gear.

Yet if she hops in the car 15mins before for a 45mins journey and I’m driving, it’s sort of my fault in the car why we’re running late.

Forced accountability I think it’s called.

[foreright]

Upinflames said:

I've refrained from commenting on this thread out of fear you'd all think I was making it up.

This morning's performance though takes some beating.

We had to leave home at 11. Absolutely had to. Important appointment.

So I said, last night, "In the morning, I'll walk the dogs and make breakfast while you get ready, we'll easily be ready for 11"

I came back with the dogs

Me - "What are you doing?"

Mrs - "Oh hi, just making bread."

Me - "What's the beetroot for on the side?"

Mrs - "Oh I saw a brilliant recipe on Tiktok, I'm fermenting it!"

Me - "What, when we get back?"

Mrs - "No, it'll dry up, I'm doing it now!"

Me - "We need to leave in less than an hour"

Mrs - "Well I've got to hoover up yet!"

My wife usually waits until the children and dog are in the car and I have the engine running on the drive before she starts faffing like that.

[ro250]

Gigamoons said:

ro250 said:

We're out tonight and it's a 30 min drive.

We're picking up people on the way.

She proposed leaving 20 minutes before we need to be there.

We've been to this place many times before.

I asked if we were taking the helicopter.

She did not laugh.

Top tip: he or she whom makes the arrangements, drive you there.

I find when she’s arranged us to be somewhere and pick people up and is tasked with driving, she gets her arse in gear.

Yet if she hops in the car 15mins before for a 45mins journey and I’m driving, it’s sort of my fault in the car why we’re running late.

Forced accountability I think it’s called.

She did actually concede when I showed her Google Maps that it would take 30 mins. Which surprised me as she normally dismisses Google Maps as untrustworthy as she apparently knows more about the current traffic situation than it does.

[Kowalski655]

ro250 said:

... Which surprised me as she normally dismisses Google Maps as untrustworthy as she apparently knows more about the current traffic situation anything than it does.

Typical female

[WhiskyDisco]

Last night we are getting the trailer tent out to have a quick sort out before we leave on Friday. The Mini is across the garage, so she asks "shall I move the Mini?". Yes I reply, stick it on the road. Does she do this? No, she drives it very slowly towards the house and only stops when she drives into the porch.

I tell her she just drove into the house but she denies. She backs up a few inches. Even when I point out the brick dust and mark on the bumper she still denies anything about it.

Now the trailer is blocking the Mini in!