Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
TREMAiNE said:
Thank you!
Hopefully you go all the way on the next attempt! I lack the confidence unfortunately - though I'm still not as bad as ChemicalChaos from the sounds of it!
Don't use CC as a measuring post for success hahaHopefully you go all the way on the next attempt! I lack the confidence unfortunately - though I'm still not as bad as ChemicalChaos from the sounds of it!
He would do well if took some of the advice offered but ego / reactionary view point hold him back.
As for confidence.
Think of the worst chatup line you can "I like your socks" or something along those lines. Guaranteed to fail.
Now go use it on say 50 of the hottest girls you see over the course of a few weekends.
Realise after being rejected by all these girls you are no worse off.
Rejection is the fear, when you conquer it then you're basically sorted.
So many of my friends of the same age (34) still havn't figured it out and are either single or in 'make do' relationships.
Funniest part about this exercise is that sometimes it still works
What the f
I was bang into this thread last year when I left my wife... having panicked about "finding someone" I went through POF OK Cupid, MSF and had some dates.
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tters mostly, some I binned off, some I went with for a bit. One had such bad breath I swear she gave me halitosis and it took a stload of expensive mouthwash to resolve.
Then 9 months on I met a really nice girl... bit of a sketchy past, depression and abusive relationships... one guy turned up at her house while I was staying round. But lovely, fit, horny, squirter.... it was brilliant.
Then some younger girls from work showed an interest, and not wanting to be a dick, I sacked off lovely squirter. After a quick fumble the youngsters evaporated and now I'm having a dry spell...
But feeling a lot better about it...
Got my motorbike MOTd and have decided it's a better way of getting kicks than touching young girls or nailing rails of coke.
So for anyone in a similar situation... er don't panic. there will be squirters and young slags to take your mind off it.
And if not, buy a jizz machine and have wind sperm spunking in your face. - see Baron Von Grumble on an S1000R
(I'm pissed, flame away
)
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tters mostly, some I binned off, some I went with for a bit. One had such bad breath I swear she gave me halitosis and it took a stload of expensive mouthwash to resolve.Then 9 months on I met a really nice girl... bit of a sketchy past, depression and abusive relationships... one guy turned up at her house while I was staying round. But lovely, fit, horny, squirter.... it was brilliant.
Then some younger girls from work showed an interest, and not wanting to be a dick, I sacked off lovely squirter. After a quick fumble the youngsters evaporated and now I'm having a dry spell...
But feeling a lot better about it...
Got my motorbike MOTd and have decided it's a better way of getting kicks than touching young girls or nailing rails of coke.
So for anyone in a similar situation... er don't panic. there will be squirters and young slags to take your mind off it.
And if not, buy a jizz machine and have wind sperm spunking in your face. - see Baron Von Grumble on an S1000R
(I'm pissed, flame away
)Hasbeen said:
I can't believe some of you people use real names.
Always use a pet name, & the same one with every lady.
Nothing kills the mood quicker than moaning Mary, when you are with Helen, or Dorothy when with Debbie.
Hell some will even realise that they are Darling not Honey.
Ah, you clearly have yet to experience the raw thrill of Rodeo Sex. Always use a pet name, & the same one with every lady.
Nothing kills the mood quicker than moaning Mary, when you are with Helen, or Dorothy when with Debbie.
Hell some will even realise that they are Darling not Honey.
Harpo said:
Hasbeen said:
I can't believe some of you people use real names.
Always use a pet name, & the same one with every lady.
Nothing kills the mood quicker than moaning Mary, when you are with Helen, or Dorothy when with Debbie.
Hell some will even realise that they are Darling not Honey.
Ah, you clearly have yet to experience the raw thrill of Rodeo Sex. Always use a pet name, & the same one with every lady.
Nothing kills the mood quicker than moaning Mary, when you are with Helen, or Dorothy when with Debbie.
Hell some will even realise that they are Darling not Honey.
In other news...I have a date on Thursday. Going for coffee in town.
Fingers crossed this one doesn't turn out like the others from POF!
I've not caught up on this thread for a while, pure gold!
CC, for the love of god, the 1 piece of advice you need is stop trying so hard! You come across as trying really hard at everything at it shows!
I used to be kind of maybe sort of loosely similar in the sense that I used to take too much to heart. I've posted a few times in other threads during what I'm going to call my 'woe is me' stage. I had been with a very manipulative, abusive mind fk girl which I let get to me. I then tried to find a settle down girl to counter act it all, which was probably me not being over the ex (gaaaaay!).
That ended in what you'd call 'complete disaster' by your measure. Really though, compare it to some of the other posters in here with bad divorces and recovering from that. NO offence intended, but it's harder for a 50 something guy to get back out there after a decade + marriage. Simple fact is the pool is smaller if you will. You are 23, why are you worrying so much?! Why are you trying to find the perfect match straight off the bat? It's why you are being friend zones so hard by them all.
Stop looking at all the reasons you are a match and find someone you want to fk, that wants to fk you and if it goes somewhere great. If not, you got your willy wet and move on to the next one. You shouldn't be knowing everything about them before you ask them out. You find that out while you are 'recharging' and she wants to talk.
Stop defining yourself as 'different' too. It's annoying as fk. Just relax man, don't lead with 'I like steam engines and beer with twigs in it'. You wonder why you can't find a girl when you paint yourself into a micro niche.
I'll say it again, you are 23! Stop all this settle down nonsense, if you find a girl at your age that does want that, she is a thorough bred mental! I met one, I got suckered in by one (mental to dirty scale and all that) and let it go past honeymoon stage. At the time, not a confident guy so was probably scared of being single and willing to accept at 22 the nutcase with a child.
Thankfully the realisation came that actually I'm pretty good looking as I've found out so can ride on that for the first stint. Just had to develop the balls to go for it, don't be scared of rejection as Countzero said.
Get yourself on tinder CC and set the rules of 1 and 3. You have 1 day to get her number and get it off tinder, 3 days to have a date set that coming weekend. Any chat of 'oh I'm busy this weekend, maybe another time' and you move on. Leave it open, but stop chasing. If you really make her froth at the gash, she'll contact you. If not, well you probably wouldn't have got anywhere anyway so move on to the next one. It is simple and so easy, you are in the prime age range for tinder. Balance your chat too, you want to flirt and be a bit dirty but not a total cock. One mate goes for full bore sleaze claiming girls want that. He's in a 3 year dry spell.
I go more, cheeky dirty side but a good guy really but it doesn't mean I shy away from anything, women like confidence. Don't let your chat go stale either, if the conversation is dying off, end it and pick it up later. Nothing is more of a turn off than stale chat.
You don't have to totally transform yourself. I am still childish in my humour, spend too much time on my car, play video games with my mates ans get drunk and do stupid st like I did when I was 20. Difference is now I put on some weight, got healthy and became comfortable in myself. Like fear, they can smell uncomfortable off you. So get yourself onto myprotein.com for some shakes, get down to the gym a few times a week and put some effort in to being attractive instead of what appears to be actively attempting to be unattractive in a self sabotage sort of way. See what you don't get is that girls put effort into their appearance and expect the same from guys. I don't mean fake tan, midget gem hairstyle cock, but my god go and lift some weights a few times a week at least. You want a good looking girl? Well she wants the same in a guy (unless you are stinking rich, that counteracts any negative traits you have. So you could always win the lottery?)
Anyway, enough talk about CC. A good news story to break up the car crash that his posts are.
Broke up with the girlfriend a month ago. Realised it was probably over a few months before but I hadn't wanted to hurt her, made it a tad messy. Feeling pretty good after it, nice clean break with no contact from either side or through mutual friends. Nothing against her and to be honest, I hope she finds the right guy for her she wants but it's not me.
My mates got me onto tinder and had great success. The girls I've talked to so far have contacted me first and I've been so busy on them I've not even got started on other matches.
Had a few dates, one with a girl who was 100% from concentrate mental. Was a laugh at least and my first date after the break up so good to get some practise in at least. Rule of 3 days (see above CC) and after a few hours chat, she didn't really have much to her. A bit of a 'woo girl'. Added me on fb after 2 days which is a massive red flag.
Date number 3 this weekend with a 20 year old who is hot! Seems quite nice so far, good chat to the point we were together all day and night Saturday and it didn't go stale once. First date was just out for dinner for a few hours. Went into town Saturday and back to mine after. Broke the whole 3 date rule which she commented on and even after us both being rather drunk and not one of my best performances, still seems game.
So see where this goes, 3 dates in 3 weeks, decent chat, doesn't seem too mental and isn't intrusive in the slightest. Going to see how far this goes, have some fun at least for a while with no pressure on anything.
CC, for the love of god, the 1 piece of advice you need is stop trying so hard! You come across as trying really hard at everything at it shows!
I used to be kind of maybe sort of loosely similar in the sense that I used to take too much to heart. I've posted a few times in other threads during what I'm going to call my 'woe is me' stage. I had been with a very manipulative, abusive mind f
k girl which I let get to me. I then tried to find a settle down girl to counter act it all, which was probably me not being over the ex (gaaaaay!).That ended in what you'd call 'complete disaster' by your measure. Really though, compare it to some of the other posters in here with bad divorces and recovering from that. NO offence intended, but it's harder for a 50 something guy to get back out there after a decade + marriage. Simple fact is the pool is smaller if you will. You are 23, why are you worrying so much?! Why are you trying to find the perfect match straight off the bat? It's why you are being friend zones so hard by them all.
Stop looking at all the reasons you are a match and find someone you want to f
k, that wants to fk you and if it goes somewhere great. If not, you got your willy wet and move on to the next one. You shouldn't be knowing everything about them before you ask them out. You find that out while you are 'recharging' and she wants to talk.Stop defining yourself as 'different' too. It's annoying as f
k. Just relax man, don't lead with 'I like steam engines and beer with twigs in it'. You wonder why you can't find a girl when you paint yourself into a micro niche. I'll say it again, you are 23! Stop all this settle down nonsense, if you find a girl at your age that does want that, she is a thorough bred mental! I met one, I got suckered in by one (mental to dirty scale and all that) and let it go past honeymoon stage. At the time, not a confident guy so was probably scared of being single and willing to accept at 22 the nutcase with a child.
Thankfully the realisation came that actually I'm pretty good looking as I've found out so can ride on that for the first stint. Just had to develop the balls to go for it, don't be scared of rejection as Countzero said.
Get yourself on tinder CC and set the rules of 1 and 3. You have 1 day to get her number and get it off tinder, 3 days to have a date set that coming weekend. Any chat of 'oh I'm busy this weekend, maybe another time' and you move on. Leave it open, but stop chasing. If you really make her froth at the gash, she'll contact you. If not, well you probably wouldn't have got anywhere anyway so move on to the next one. It is simple and so easy, you are in the prime age range for tinder. Balance your chat too, you want to flirt and be a bit dirty but not a total cock. One mate goes for full bore sleaze claiming girls want that. He's in a 3 year dry spell.
I go more, cheeky dirty side but a good guy really but it doesn't mean I shy away from anything, women like confidence. Don't let your chat go stale either, if the conversation is dying off, end it and pick it up later. Nothing is more of a turn off than stale chat.
You don't have to totally transform yourself. I am still childish in my humour, spend too much time on my car, play video games with my mates ans get drunk and do stupid s
t like I did when I was 20. Difference is now I put on some weight, got healthy and became comfortable in myself. Like fear, they can smell uncomfortable off you. So get yourself onto myprotein.com for some shakes, get down to the gym a few times a week and put some effort in to being attractive instead of what appears to be actively attempting to be unattractive in a self sabotage sort of way. See what you don't get is that girls put effort into their appearance and expect the same from guys. I don't mean fake tan, midget gem hairstyle cock, but my god go and lift some weights a few times a week at least. You want a good looking girl? Well she wants the same in a guy (unless you are stinking rich, that counteracts any negative traits you have. So you could always win the lottery?)Anyway, enough talk about CC. A good news story to break up the car crash that his posts are.
Broke up with the girlfriend a month ago. Realised it was probably over a few months before but I hadn't wanted to hurt her, made it a tad messy. Feeling pretty good after it, nice clean break with no contact from either side or through mutual friends. Nothing against her and to be honest, I hope she finds the right guy for her she wants but it's not me.
My mates got me onto tinder and had great success. The girls I've talked to so far have contacted me first and I've been so busy on them I've not even got started on other matches.
Had a few dates, one with a girl who was 100% from concentrate mental. Was a laugh at least and my first date after the break up so good to get some practise in at least. Rule of 3 days (see above CC) and after a few hours chat, she didn't really have much to her. A bit of a 'woo girl'. Added me on fb after 2 days which is a massive red flag.
Date number 3 this weekend with a 20 year old who is hot! Seems quite nice so far, good chat to the point we were together all day and night Saturday and it didn't go stale once. First date was just out for dinner for a few hours. Went into town Saturday and back to mine after. Broke the whole 3 date rule which she commented on and even after us both being rather drunk and not one of my best performances, still seems game.
So see where this goes, 3 dates in 3 weeks, decent chat, doesn't seem too mental and isn't intrusive in the slightest. Going to see how far this goes, have some fun at least for a while with no pressure on anything.
Edited by DottyMR2 on Tuesday 17th March 02:23
Excellent advice from the poster above.
CC, Can I recommend you Google "manosphere" and blue pill/red pill behaviour.
Basically there are two types of men in this world, Alpha and Beta. The Alphas are out having all the sex and the Invisible Betas are on internet forums moaning that they are constantly in the friend zone.
I have a horrible feeling CC is going to marry the first girl he sleeps with and then 7 years later end up sitting on plastic garden furniture in a rented bedsit, while his wife moves her boyfriend into his house.
CC, Can I recommend you Google "manosphere" and blue pill/red pill behaviour.
Basically there are two types of men in this world, Alpha and Beta. The Alphas are out having all the sex and the Invisible Betas are on internet forums moaning that they are constantly in the friend zone.
I have a horrible feeling CC is going to marry the first girl he sleeps with and then 7 years later end up sitting on plastic garden furniture in a rented bedsit, while his wife moves her boyfriend into his house.
Edited by anonymous-user on Tuesday 17th March 06:34
Calza said:
Does anyone else have the problem on tinder where a girl only posts photos with a friend / friends and it's just too much hard work to figure out which one she is?
I'm sure I've missed a few hot girls through laziness!
Or their stupidity.I'm sure I've missed a few hot girls through laziness!
Send a message telling her that it's impossible to work out which one you're meant to be contacting, so you've just assumed that she's the fit one in the photo, and "if you're actually the ugly one then don't bother messaging me back thanks".
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