Match.com (Volume 6)

[Impasse]

Nice to see Jeremy Clarkson giving fashion advice on here.

[Shnozz]

Ki3r said:

If it was what I felt comfortable in she would properly walk away .

I've got an idea on what to wear. I'm not that stupid when it comes to women and dates (although admittedly from my past it doesn't come across like that).

Just fun to see what everyone thinks.

On a serious note, don't think I can get away with slim fitting!

So what are you planning to do if you want to sustain a relationship beyond a few dates? Swap out the wardrobe? In which case, why not just do that now?

If you think you look a sloth now, change it. Not just for a first date. You might find then you're impressing more women on the street daily rather than limiting looking presentable only on first dates.

Edited by Shnozz on Wednesday 24th June 17:53

[Thankyou4calling]

Ki3r said:

If it was what I felt comfortable in she would properly walk away .

I've got an idea on what to wear. I'm not that stupid when it comes to women and dates (although admittedly from my past it doesn't come across like that).

Just fun to see what everyone thinks.

On a serious note, don't think I can get away with slim fitting!

By slim fit I mean tailored. Even if you are a more "Comfortable " shape the right fit can do wonders.

Shirt for instance don't go for some sort of 90's look where the waist billows, choose one with darts in the back that will broaden your shoulders and narrow your waist. Likewise with your jacket, just get one that's tailored and with narrow shoulders and lapels.

Try some on and ask others what looks good and if you want to get beyond a first date invest in some decent clobber, it pays for itself in comments and attention.

[leglessAlex]

Thankyou4calling said:

Try some on and ask others what looks good and if you want to get beyond a first date invest in some decent clobber, it pays for itself in comments and attention.

Aint that the truth!

Almost every single girl I know notices the clothes a dude is wearing, whether they care on not depends on the individual but they all notice.

[TedMaul]

Shnozz said:

Wear whatever you feel comfortable in. I know you seem a bit special Ki3R but whether you're stylish as fook or are an awkward bloke who dresses like a gamer, you are you. Falsifying it for a date seems a bit strange to me in that you'll either gel as you or not. Never really understand why you'd be something you're not to potentially leave disappointment a little further down the line. Yes, there's putting the best foot forward but I'm not sure that would extend to buying a different look just to take a doris for an average meal at what sounds like a bit of a restaurant.

If anything, rocking up in a fitted T-shirt and pair of Converse might display a bit more of a laid back attitude to a first date than arriving in your best Court suit and polished shoes like a Johnny try-hard. The important part is to be as groomed as you can - look and smell immaculate. Just don't wear a T-shirt with your favourite TV show on it or combats.

This

Shnozz said:

Ergo - your jeans, shirt and a pair of shoes sound fine. If you really are socially unaware, go buy GQ, have a look at what folk are wearing and choose a style that you think suits you. Get a female mate to help identify that look and possibly even hold your hand going to the shops (just don't interpret that hand hold as being some sort of marriage indication...). H&M are cheap as chips and usually follow up to date styles with their stock - it's cheap and won't last all that long but for a quick make over would do the job.

And this

Women know a ste load more about clothes than blokes (Gok Wan aside) and she will be able to tell, by your body language if nothing else, that its not your normal attire and you are uncomfortable. Worst still, you may come across as shifty if you keep stretching your collar as the new shirt hasn't worn in.

So long as the clothes and shoes are clean, ironed and you smell nice, clean shaven and smiley you'll be fine. She will be fussing over her clothes and hair more than you so make sure you compliment her (I said smell btw, not stink like my 10yo son who emptied half a bottle of lynx over himself the other week and we had to open all the fking windows for 2 days and the house still smells rank)

[Condi]

Thankyou4calling said:

Honestly why are you asking people you e never met, what to wear when you meet a woman you've never met at a bar that we don't know.

SHIRT. A smart one, white, pink, French blue you decide. Two buttons undone. Long sleeve, its okay to roll the sleeves up a nice collar, well ironed, slim fit and tucked into

JEANS

Decent jeans, dark blue or black, NOT STONEWASHED OR FROM ASDA. Low waist band if it suits, a decent cut that flatters. Long length so they cover your Levis are a default and good choice. Diesel also make nice jeans IMO

BOOTS

They are black or tan, brogue, Chelsea, slip on or lace up but NOT FROM BRANTANO. Well polished as they will be noticed as will your not sure, I think you can get away with a decent pair of shoes. Not office shoes, but slip on's without too much stitching can be simple and classic

ACCESSORIES

A watch, don't know what you have but it says more than the time. A belt that goes with jeans. Maybe MAYBE a bracelet. No neck chain or other. Have a wallet, a slim one or money clip and don't let your phone be seen unless it's a Smartphone. depending on age. Not many people from my age (26) would wear a watch, and it wouldnt be expected. If it said anything it would be that they are trying to be flashy. We check the time on our phone and that is fine .This is all you carry apart from a

JACKET. That should be a suit jacket, slim cut, two button, narrow lapel, navy. No hankie needed in the pocket and you can wear it or carry it over your arm. depends on the bar. average bar I wouldnt bother, even semi-nice bar I wouldnt bother. For a posh place then okay, but surely that would be ammo for the 2nd date anyway? can appear pretentious. may differ with age

Kiss on the cheek, open doors, pull out chairs, nod your head, pretend you are interested. Your aim is a 2nd date.

Generally agree, although alternatives suggested. I tend to be very relaxed about things, you may prefer something more formal.

In reality, you want YOU to come across. Wear something from your existing wardrobe, or at least something that you would wear in future. No point pretending to be someone else. Clothes dont have to be expensive, by shopping around you can get nice clothes at sensible prices. Fit is far far more important that brand. Lets face it, all clothes are cheap to make, so no point buying an expensive brand for the sake of it.

[gwm]

Apply to some in here?

[anonymous-user]

Justayellowbadge said:

Ki3r said:

I said cheapish, not cheapest :P. (At least I think I did, cheapish did auto correct to cheapest just then...).

I'm guessing using Tesco club card vouchers to pay isn't a good idea?
















That last part is a joke...they don't take them .

Nope, you said cheapest.

Watch that autocorrect, or you'll end up telling her she's a filthy chubi and you want to kick her puppy.

Or lick her clot.

Seriously. Vom.

[AngryPartsBloke]

Came acorss a profile on POF for a 'couple looking for fun'

Didn't quite know what to make of it to be honest

[Frimley111R]

AngryPartsBloke said:

Came acorss a profile on POF for a 'couple looking for fun'

Didn't quite know what to make of it to be honest

Tell them you're a fairground owner

[AngryPartsBloke]

Frimley111R said:

AngryPartsBloke said:

Came acorss a profile on POF for a 'couple looking for fun'

Didn't quite know what to make of it to be honest

Tell them you're a fairground owner

I'm worried any sort of interaction with them is going to end with someone trying to stick their pork sword in me..

She's fit but not that fit.

[Thankyou4calling]

AngryPartsBloke said:

Came acorss a profile on POF for a 'couple looking for fun'

Didn't quite know what to make of it to be honest

They're sex people.

http://youtu.be/noTjI3CloYk

[Ki3r]

Date went well .

Despite her going home from work early on Thursday and having some kind of throat infection and then her gran falling out of bed and breaking her leg, it still happened.

So far so good.

Second date already sorted for the weekend.

[CharlesdeGaulle]

Ki3r said:

Date went well .

Despite her going home from work early on Thursday and having some kind of throat infection and then her gran falling out of bed and breaking her leg, it still happened.

So far so good.

Second date already sorted for the weekend.

And so it begins. Again.

[Gretchen]

Ki3r said:

Date went well .

Despite her going home from work early on Thursday and having some kind of throat infection and then her gran falling out of bed and breaking her leg, it still happened.

So far so good.

Second date already sorted for the weekend.

Sounds needy. Bin it.

[Kaj91]

Gretchen said:

Ki3r said:

Date went well .

Despite her going home from work early on Thursday and having some kind of throat infection and then her gran falling out of bed and breaking her leg, it still happened.

So far so good.

Second date already sorted for the weekend.

Sounds needy. Bin it.

Sounds like he/we have been here before.


I miss CC's contributions to this thread.

[CharlesdeGaulle]

Kaj91 said:

I miss CC's contributions to this thread.

Quoted, simply because there will be a time, not too distant, when you will rue that sentiment.


And I say that as a bloke that enjoys his contributions.

[TedMaul]

Met a lady of pof this evening, went for a nice walk in the woods with her dog..... Very pretty, very intelligent,,, the lady that is, not the dog, hopefully meet up next week again

Odd message from someone else this morning asking me to cook her dinner, unusually polite and eloquent, maybe nice women are like buses and come along in threes.....

[spikeyhead]

TedMaul said:

Met a lady of pof this evening, went for a nice walk in the woods with her dog..... Very pretty, very intelligent,,, the lady that is, not the dog, hopefully meet up next week again

Odd message from someone else this morning asking me to cook her dinner, unusually polite and eloquent, maybe nice women are like buses and come along in threes.....

One each for Friday, Saturday and Sunday, then the rest of the week in peace to recover, what's not to like?

[Ikemi]

Shnozz said:

Ki3r said:

If it was what I felt comfortable in she would properly walk away .

I've got an idea on what to wear. I'm not that stupid when it comes to women and dates (although admittedly from my past it doesn't come across like that).

Just fun to see what everyone thinks.

On a serious note, don't think I can get away with slim fitting!

So what are you planning to do if you want to sustain a relationship beyond a few dates? Swap out the wardrobe? In which case, why not just do that now?

If you think you look a sloth now, change it. Not just for a first date. You might find then you're impressing more women on the street daily rather than limiting looking presentable only on first dates.

Edited by Shnozz on Wednesday 24th June 17:53

In terms of clothes, it all depends on the type of woman you're meeting with to have a date. All women will size you up in terms of what you're wearing, but some will prefer the t-shirt and skate shoes look, whereas 'fasionistas' may prefer their men to be well dressed and sporting designer labels. Whatever you choose, always be sure that the clothes fit well. This goes for t-shirts too. There's nothing worse than ill-fitting clothes.

Personally, I think a bit of chivalry and the ability to make your date laugh will help you more than clothes ever will! I've entered relationships where the first date consisted of me wearing some Etnies trainers, some well fitted jeans and my finest Fox t-shirt ... :P

Anyway, be decisive! Choosing clothes is the easy bit. If you have to make any other decisions on the date, do them swiftly and confidently. Most importantly, enjoy yourself and have fun!

As for me, I'm now seeing a gorgeous Canadian singer ... It's only been a couple of months, but we're now exclusive and everything is very relaxed and easy. Neither of us were really looking to date, but after swiping right on Tinder and having a good chat, we realised just how 'in tune' we are with each other. So, yeah. Tinder can work. Much to the surprise of both of us!