Any other expectant Dads?
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I took codie for her second round of jags this morning on my own, mrs malks felt I do better with the jags than she would. doctors doing strict- 1 person only at an appointment. Buzz the reception, wait outside and nurse comes and gets you at the door and takes you straight into the room/ appointment.
was surprised the appointment was still going on, but we had phoned ahead to check.
but in much happier news codie took it like a trooper, one scream but no actual crying. all good today
was surprised the appointment was still going on, but we had phoned ahead to check.
but in much happier news codie took it like a trooper, one scream but no actual crying. all good today
The jiffle king said:
I write this stood outside the hospital as my wife has her scan. All is good but I’m not allowed in to see the doctor or the scan which is clearly the right decision but upsetting (I’m not complaining )
All seems to be good and as I’m at the hospital I don’t feel I am missing out too much
Just feel lucky to be in a good position. Now for more isolation and looking after the Jiffle Queen and Baby Jiffle
We've got our 26 weeks scan on Thursday and it's looking like it's going ahead however looking likely that I'll be resigned to the car park sadly, though we've also got a toddler so given the circumstances he can't be left with anybody else anyway as I'm self isolating for two weeks and her ladyship is 12 weeks... not great, not how we wanted it but in the bigger scale of things it's a minor thing. All seems to be good and as I’m at the hospital I don’t feel I am missing out too much
Just feel lucky to be in a good position. Now for more isolation and looking after the Jiffle Queen and Baby Jiffle
In other news, said toddler has just moved from his old cot to a toddler bed and amazingly when he's been put down the past two nights, he's stayed there right through though did appear like a 2ft, pale blue onsie clad ninja at my bedside this morning at 7am and about scared the crap out of me in the process. Also pretty much got toilet training nailed after a testing few weeks so that's also a huge relief!
He's also fine with this whole stay at home thing we're enduring just now. Seems quite pleased that we're both home and is busy perfecting his manipulation skills. Gets them from his mother I suspect. Can't lie however, this whole Covid-19 stuff is terrifying me though we're slightly fortunate in the sense we're miles from anybody so it doesn't feel quite so locked down as I'm sure it could be and if we do venture out to have a walk or ride a bike, there's nobody ready to criticism us on social media.
Stay safe gents.
My wife is 21 weeks. My main worry about all this is that she is due end of July, which the way things are going, could mean we are still in the s
t over Covid-19. I'm worried the hospitals will be so full, they won't have time for something as trivial as a pregnancy, not to mention going to a hospital which might be full of infected people doesn't sound like a great idea.
Not really sure what to do at this point, we don't have any small local birthing units nearby, only big hospitals which I'd probably want to avoid for the above reasons. Starting to give serious consideration to a home birth but not sure if that is a good option either.
It's a worry to be sure.
t over Covid-19. I'm worried the hospitals will be so full, they won't have time for something as trivial as a pregnancy, not to mention going to a hospital which might be full of infected people doesn't sound like a great idea.Not really sure what to do at this point, we don't have any small local birthing units nearby, only big hospitals which I'd probably want to avoid for the above reasons. Starting to give serious consideration to a home birth but not sure if that is a good option either.
It's a worry to be sure.
Guvernator said:
My wife is 21 weeks. My main worry about all this is that she is due end of July, which the way things are going, could mean we are still in the st over Covid-19. I'm worried the hospitals will be so full, they won't have time for something as trivial as a pregnancy, not to mention going to a hospital which might be full of infected people doesn't sound like a great idea.
Not really sure what to do at this point, we don't have any small local birthing units nearby, only big hospitals which I'd probably want to avoid for the above reasons. Starting to give serious consideration to a home birth but not sure if that is a good option either.
It's a worry to be sure.
Many home births are now being cancelled due to midwives not being available to support them. t over Covid-19. I'm worried the hospitals will be so full, they won't have time for something as trivial as a pregnancy, not to mention going to a hospital which might be full of infected people doesn't sound like a great idea.Not really sure what to do at this point, we don't have any small local birthing units nearby, only big hospitals which I'd probably want to avoid for the above reasons. Starting to give serious consideration to a home birth but not sure if that is a good option either.
It's a worry to be sure.
I really hope it’s in a far better position by July and yours all goes smoothly
And I’m hopeful but also pessimistic that things may be better in May for me too.
All our midwife appointments have been cancelled and hey have moved online as a group session.
We had the first post from a midwife this afternoon saying that in our trust they are currently allowing one birth partner and visitors won’t be allowed other than that initial birth partner, but things may change as weeks go on.
Nemophilist said:
Many home births are now being cancelled due to midwives not being available to support them.
I really hope it’s in a far better position by July and yours all goes smoothly
And I’m hopeful but also pessimistic that things may be better in May for me too.
All our midwife appointments have been cancelled and hey have moved online as a group session.
We had the first post from a midwife this afternoon saying that in our trust they are currently allowing one birth partner and visitors won’t be allowed other than that initial birth partner, but things may change as weeks go on.
Thanks and good luck too. I thought second time round would be easier but couldn’t have predicted this. I really hope it’s in a far better position by July and yours all goes smoothly
And I’m hopeful but also pessimistic that things may be better in May for me too.
All our midwife appointments have been cancelled and hey have moved online as a group session.
We had the first post from a midwife this afternoon saying that in our trust they are currently allowing one birth partner and visitors won’t be allowed other than that initial birth partner, but things may change as weeks go on.
No appointments cancelled yet but I think it’s only a matter of time.
Guvernator said:
My wife is 21 weeks. My main worry about all this is that she is due end of July, which the way things are going, could mean we are still in the st over Covid-19. I'm worried the hospitals will be so full, they won't have time for something as trivial as a pregnancy, not to mention going to a hospital which might be full of infected people doesn't sound like a great idea.
Not really sure what to do at this point, we don't have any small local birthing units nearby, only big hospitals which I'd probably want to avoid for the above reasons. Starting to give serious consideration to a home birth but not sure if that is a good option either.
It's a worry to be sure.
Very similar thoughts here too. t over Covid-19. I'm worried the hospitals will be so full, they won't have time for something as trivial as a pregnancy, not to mention going to a hospital which might be full of infected people doesn't sound like a great idea.Not really sure what to do at this point, we don't have any small local birthing units nearby, only big hospitals which I'd probably want to avoid for the above reasons. Starting to give serious consideration to a home birth but not sure if that is a good option either.
It's a worry to be sure.
As I write this, my wife is away to her 26 week scan alone which is proving a tough pill to swallow for us both. However, I had set myself up for that being the case plus we have a toddler so where he would have gone was an issue so as crappy as it is, it's the best decision all round.
I too am worried about the coming weeks, not only trying to keep her and us all safe but also the thought of the birth scares me. Our first was a bit of a slog, she was in for three days and in the end she needed help at the last stages so whilst a home birth was discussed, we both felt that the hospital or a local birthing unit is preferred but we shall just need to see how it pans out.
I also worry about her state of mind. Things like that are worrying her as they are myself... the thought of self isolation for another 11 weeks, more so with an excitable toddler to look after and then the ever present worry about one or all of us getting ill and the fact the support is and could be in short supply as we move forwards. I'm not a negative person but then again, nor am I positive!
I'm also worried and confused in equal measures about going back to work. Currently I'm self isolating as not only have I been unwell, which I hope is just a cold / cough... but I also work part time driving for a supermarket, door to door and so with my wife being pregnant, I opted to take the 14 days (though I feel riddled with guilt) but when I go back, I'll be back in a retail environment plus going door to door whilst sees still self isolating. That's hard to get your head round, more so as we can't see family (who are all well) but it's ok for me to be a frontline worker day in, day out... surely the latter is the greater risk of catching / spreading.
It's all just very confusing and very worrying, struggling to keep focus and make sense of it all just now.
vaud said:
It is.
My coping strategies involve:
1) lots of radio comedy
2) only checking the news once a day
3) indoor exercise (the Joe youtube guy)
4) staying off social media
I work in the food industry so am doing 14 hours+ a day so have no time for the social media news thing, but I am sure if I did listen/watch it would worry me, so I check once a day for headlines and avoid the mainstream media where possibleMy coping strategies involve:
1) lots of radio comedy
2) only checking the news once a day
3) indoor exercise (the Joe youtube guy)
4) staying off social media
Also finding time for a jog s a challenge as that keeps me sane
Edited by The jiffle king on Thursday 26th March 10:50
The jiffle king said:
I work in the food industry so am doing 14 hours+ a day so have no time for the social media news thing, but I am sure if I did listen/watch it would worry me, so I check once a day for headlines and avoid the mainstream media where possible
Also finding time for a job is a challenge as that keeps me sane
I'm self isolating (day 5) with a 2 year old, a 6 year old and my patient wife whilst both of us are trying to work from home (both jobs linked to CV19 response, but not required in office...) I may yet go mad.Also finding time for a job is a challenge as that keeps me sane
May as well poke my head in here. I've just had my third child, 3 weeks old now, he was born in MK Hospital 2 days before the first confirmed corona patient turned up and died within 6 hours, so the timing was great, my wife was induced 2 weeks early too.
Dealing with a 5 year old who has to do home work, and 3 year old with no set objectives as well as a baby is quite tough, and obviously all external support turned off now. My company has asked me to come into work too on a day on day off basis with the days off still working from home. I took 2 weeks off to help my wife, and after 2 days back was sent home for the week.
One of my colleagues, his wife is a midwife and going round to help pregnant ladies at home now. I'm not really sure that pulling midwifes off their job to help elsewhere is a wise move, but I'm sure some hospitals will do it if they think they can cope with reduced numbers of midwifes.
I don't think there are great answers here, but I would suggest couples seriously consider home births instead to avoid going to hospital.
Dealing with a 5 year old who has to do home work, and 3 year old with no set objectives as well as a baby is quite tough, and obviously all external support turned off now. My company has asked me to come into work too on a day on day off basis with the days off still working from home. I took 2 weeks off to help my wife, and after 2 days back was sent home for the week.
One of my colleagues, his wife is a midwife and going round to help pregnant ladies at home now. I'm not really sure that pulling midwifes off their job to help elsewhere is a wise move, but I'm sure some hospitals will do it if they think they can cope with reduced numbers of midwifes.
I don't think there are great answers here, but I would suggest couples seriously consider home births instead to avoid going to hospital.
The Moose said:
Anyone else really enjoying the extra time spent with their child(ren) and getting to know them better during this period of social distancing?
Loving it, but its really hard to work from home because she's finding it such a novelty that Daddy is at home all day in the conservatory and she can see me. We've been incredibily lucky that the weather has held out so far this week so she can spend a lot of time in the garden with mummy, and I can pop out when I've got a few mins break and build a sandcastle or similar. Not sure how it will be once it starts raining again! The Moose said:
Anyone else really enjoying the extra time spent with their child(ren) and getting to know them better during this period of social distancing?
yea we are actually... they're only usually in nursery 2 days but then also with alternating grandparents on 1 other day a week, but it feels like the continuous time has created a different experience for them. I'm WFH but my missus is on paid open-ended leave which is useful, and I am still employed but have no client work on at the moment so i have less than half of a full time job really too do... that's probably a fair amount of the reason why we are having a good time.I think different people have wildly varying experiences tho, esp those couples who are both working but with kids at home...
The Moose said:
Anyone else really enjoying the extra time spent with their child(ren) and getting to know them better during this period of social distancing?
Our toddler is loving it. We are both working from home part time so get a good balance. Still getting much less done with all the snack requests. Maybe it wont be as fun when the weather turns as we are spending a lot of time in the garden right now.
The Moose said:
Anyone else really enjoying the extra time spent with their child(ren) and getting to know them better during this period of social distancing?
I'm pretty fortunate (or unfortunate, depending on your views) as I only work part time and have done for a year or so, thus get a lot of time with my toddler. I also didn't work for about 6 months in his early months so this current time at home doesn't feel that alien. Granted, much harder keeping the momentum going as so many activities are now off limits but we're also pretty lucky that we're rural so can pretty much carry on around about the doors without too many restrictions. Coping OK so far though, he's been "helping" with some DIY tasks and the living room is now a makeshift nursery plus had him out on his bike daily. My biggest "issue" as it were is that I'm self isolating, just been feeling crappy all week and with her being pregnant and work being frontline to an extent, figured it wasn't worth the risk. She's well and the little man has been a bit snotty but nothing of concern but it's difficult as my mother-in-law lives next door and we've had to avoid her as she's caring for old granny. Up until now, said toddler had the run of the place plus she'd take him to give me / us time but that's had to be restricted... though they're away for a walk round the fields, keeping their distance and such like. But next week I'm back at work, amongst people and coming home so how is that ok...?
It's causing a bit friction sadly, more so as my wife is a little more relaxed about it though not to the stage she's carrying on regardless. But it may be more to do with me not being 100% and it's unknown why, so I'm a bit more guarded / paranoid than she is just now. She's also hiding behind the "I'm fit and well so if I do get it, it'll be ok" thing even though she's pregnant, thus higher risk but I suspect that's more of a coping mechanism for her as she will be worried... but equally, she's struggling to get her head round the how contradictory it all is too.
On a more positive note, her solo visit to the hospital yesterday for her 26wk scan went well and there's no concerns which is a relief. Though just to throw more confusion into the mix, the staff member who did the scan had two kids in childcare for key worker families and was working with pregnant women daily. You can't but help think her kids must be mixing with many other kids daily who in turn all see parents etc so surely that's a chain that could easily pass on the virus... but my wife shouldn't see her Mum who lives next door. I'm struggling.
ChocolateFrog said:
OH is nearly 39 weeks now, I'm not allowed into the hospital for the scan we had booked so waiting in the car.
OH was crying as she left the car, she's not taking it that well.
I'm parked up in the Wickes carpark nearby, as it's free and it's hard to see that anything is a miss.
Why not FaceTime for the scan?OH was crying as she left the car, she's not taking it that well.
I'm parked up in the Wickes carpark nearby, as it's free and it's hard to see that anything is a miss.
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