Any other expectant Dads?
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Ours is the same as that @josh.
Makes classes a nightmare, my wife the only one who has to stand up frequently with him. The only thing that keeps him entertained is a jumperoo near the TV, other than that he is as you mention, squirming, kicking, trying to get away etc, and we have to move him from jumperoo to floor mat with toys, to bouncer with toy bar, so tummy etc etc in cycle as each one entertains him for limited time.
I've wondered if its because he isn't' the greatest day sleeper, but beyond giving him 7 naps a day I'm not sure we could be doing much more there.
At no point in his life has he ever just sat and been still and calm like every other baby I see. It's quite incredible.
Makes classes a nightmare, my wife the only one who has to stand up frequently with him. The only thing that keeps him entertained is a jumperoo near the TV, other than that he is as you mention, squirming, kicking, trying to get away etc, and we have to move him from jumperoo to floor mat with toys, to bouncer with toy bar, so tummy etc etc in cycle as each one entertains him for limited time.
I've wondered if its because he isn't' the greatest day sleeper, but beyond giving him 7 naps a day I'm not sure we could be doing much more there.
At no point in his life has he ever just sat and been still and calm like every other baby I see. It's quite incredible.
okgo said:
Nursery is going to cost me £1480 a month for 4 days, you can see why people look for ways to cheat the system somewhat!
we’re just about to start nursery in january, thankfully not quite the same price as that but still expensive! but if you’ve not seen anything on this, have a look at- tax free child care
only just found out about this, basically up £2k ‘free’ towards childcare from the government. you pay into your government account and they top it up (max of £500 over 3 months). seems available to everyone as long as you or partner earn less than £100k per annum.
thankfully our nursery accepts this system/ payment. so a little more admin (10mins work) and we save £2k over the year. can’t complain!
malks222 said:
we’re just about to start nursery in january, thankfully not quite the same price as that but still expensive!
but if you’ve not seen anything on this, have a look at- tax free child care
only just found out about this, basically up £2k ‘free’ towards childcare from the government. you pay into your government account and they top it up (max of £500 over 3 months). seems available to everyone as long as you or partner earn less than £100k per annum.
thankfully our nursery accepts this system/ payment. so a little more admin (10mins work) and we save £2k over the year. can’t complain!
I think I'm right in saying that I'm entitled to absolutely nothing as I earn over that, apart from the 15 hours free at age 3-4. The only exception would be if my employer did a voucher scheme, which they don't. Not that I'm worried, just seems that there are quite a few avenues that need to be explored!but if you’ve not seen anything on this, have a look at- tax free child care
only just found out about this, basically up £2k ‘free’ towards childcare from the government. you pay into your government account and they top it up (max of £500 over 3 months). seems available to everyone as long as you or partner earn less than £100k per annum.
thankfully our nursery accepts this system/ payment. so a little more admin (10mins work) and we save £2k over the year. can’t complain!
okgo said:
Ours is the same as that @josh.
Makes classes a nightmare, my wife the only one who has to stand up frequently with him. The only thing that keeps him entertained is a jumperoo near the TV, other than that he is as you mention, squirming, kicking, trying to get away etc, and we have to move him from jumperoo to floor mat with toys, to bouncer with toy bar, so tummy etc etc in cycle as each one entertains him for limited time.
I've wondered if its because he isn't' the greatest day sleeper, but beyond giving him 7 naps a day I'm not sure we could be doing much more there.
At no point in his life has he ever just sat and been still and calm like every other baby I see. It's quite incredible.
Glad to hear im not the only one, at this rate he is going to be a real handful when he gets older.. Mine usually has 3 naps a day but can fight them occasionaly we have resorted to rocking to sleep in buggy then transfer to the snuggle pod thing.. Makes classes a nightmare, my wife the only one who has to stand up frequently with him. The only thing that keeps him entertained is a jumperoo near the TV, other than that he is as you mention, squirming, kicking, trying to get away etc, and we have to move him from jumperoo to floor mat with toys, to bouncer with toy bar, so tummy etc etc in cycle as each one entertains him for limited time.
I've wondered if its because he isn't' the greatest day sleeper, but beyond giving him 7 naps a day I'm not sure we could be doing much more there.
At no point in his life has he ever just sat and been still and calm like every other baby I see. It's quite incredible.
Hopefully he mellows out with age !
the childcare voucher scheme has been closed to new entrants for 2 years or more now. If you move jobs, as I have done this month, you drop out of the scheme too and cannot re-enter.
I am same as you regarding entitlements.
Something worth looking into is that the threshold for total household income is raised if one or other of you is a 'key worker'.
I am same as you regarding entitlements.
Something worth looking into is that the threshold for total household income is raised if one or other of you is a 'key worker'.
Missus went upto the hospital for a consultation on getting the boy on the boobies.
It appears he should have had this the first night he was in but must had been missed on the shift etc.
She has been struggling and the nurse said he was a bit tounge tied so will need it clipped, is this likely to need earplugs for the recovery period?
It appears he should have had this the first night he was in but must had been missed on the shift etc.
She has been struggling and the nurse said he was a bit tounge tied so will need it clipped, is this likely to need earplugs for the recovery period?
fourstardan said:
thebraketester said:
Holy crap. Had her 8 week jabs today. That’s a cry we won’t forget in a hurry. Poor little mite.
My little man did too, the bumps on his legs are really big!Do any other dads have days where there patience is wearing thin ? I had a blip last night were i said some things that i deeply regret of course my son doesnt understand but i feel like a bad dad for it.. he is a real handful as i have mentioned and i have been working from home for 9 months.. i feel bad because my 6 month old should be out a lot more exploring the world but current restrictions mean this is limited. Took for a 2 hour walk in the park he was great we get home and he gets incredibly fussy and hard work.. he may be teething too, but my partner and i are struggling some days. We have no support from family they live 25-30 miles away... i love my son deeply but sometimes i lose my cool and i have to take myself away for 5 minutes. Is this normal ? I know being a dad is learning curve and i wouldnt have it any other wa
Dude it's hard don't beat yourself up about it.
Most of us have said things to our kids that we regret, what matters is you see it's not ok and feel bad about it and want to be better.
Mine are 5 and 7 and they continue to try my patience daily - as long as you love them and support them and care for them you can be forgiven for the odd cross word, IMO
Most of us have said things to our kids that we regret, what matters is you see it's not ok and feel bad about it and want to be better.
Mine are 5 and 7 and they continue to try my patience daily - as long as you love them and support them and care for them you can be forgiven for the odd cross word, IMO
fourstardan said:
She has been struggling and the nurse said he was a bit tounge tied so will need it clipped, is this likely to need earplugs for the recovery period?
How old again? Mine had hers clipped at just over a week old and she was no different afterwards. When they're that young they barely know what's going on.The thing that makes me sad sometimes is knowing that alot of the things we do with her until she's nearly double digits, she will not remember at all when older. The experience is more for the parent than the child.
Thanks chaps, i have made a conserted effort today with him to be calm and loving in the face of adversity.. glad to hear some similar feelings i was beginning to feel a bit down about it to be honest
R.e tongue tie my son had his clipped at home during lockdown at around 2 months old, the wait for nhs was months.. he was a little grump for the next 24 hours but nothing calpol couldnt sort out.
R.e tongue tie my son had his clipped at home during lockdown at around 2 months old, the wait for nhs was months.. he was a little grump for the next 24 hours but nothing calpol couldnt sort out.
I’ve wanted to hide mine in the cupboard plenty of times, thankfully not had to do it yet. there’s been loads of times me or my mrs has just said to the other- your turn, can’t deal with this any more..... and the other takes over.
it’s good you can sense/ feel when it’s happening as you can take yourself away from the situation. But yeah it’s tough, there is no right or wrong answer, there’s no one thing that can make them all stop crying/ go to sleep/ stop being a little dick trying your patience.......
it’s good you can sense/ feel when it’s happening as you can take yourself away from the situation. But yeah it’s tough, there is no right or wrong answer, there’s no one thing that can make them all stop crying/ go to sleep/ stop being a little dick trying your patience.......
When they are very small, I found that even in the middle of the night in cold rain, putting them in a pram (with covers) and going for a good walk helped. They normally fall asleep... and it is giving my wife some peace... and I’m at least getting some fresh air. It does pass.
When they can walk I have found a walk before bed can help (give them a torch to lead the way).
Neither daughter were/are good sleepers so I’ve tried nearly everything.
When they can walk I have found a walk before bed can help (give them a torch to lead the way).
Neither daughter were/are good sleepers so I’ve tried nearly everything.
11 years ago tonight we were packing her bags ready to go into hospital. Everything had gone to plan upto this point, she was a week or two over so they were going to induce her on the 21st. That's where it all went downhill! Ended up under general anesthetic and an emergency cesarean. I was left holding the baby (literally) that night as my wife was out of it. It all worked out ok in the end and we couldn't have asked for a better daughter.
Time really does fly once you have kids. Enjoy every minute with them.
Time really does fly once you have kids. Enjoy every minute with them.
Been having a shocker with Lady F in and out of hospital since the birth two weeks ago. Everything from not being able to breathe to kidney function decreasing been distracting myself whilst holding the baby on the frivolous bits of PH. Doing some retail therapy and generally dicking around as I am taking distraction wherever I can. Solo flying with a newborn for days on end is daunting, even when it isn't your first.
Tomorrow Lady F is in for more tests, and I am really hoping that someone begins to finds out why my wife's body is failing her, as frankly, I am f
king terrified right now.
She is about to be 40, but no health conditions and was a fitness fanatic before the birth. COVID test negative. So literally no idea what is going wrong.
Tomorrow Lady F is in for more tests, and I am really hoping that someone begins to finds out why my wife's body is failing her, as frankly, I am f
king terrified right now.She is about to be 40, but no health conditions and was a fitness fanatic before the birth. COVID test negative. So literally no idea what is going wrong.
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