Anyone else getting tired of it all?

[devnull]

CAH706 said:

Thanks PaulG

I’ve talked myself round this morning and I’m back to being more positive.

The thing I find at the moment is I react too much to things and get things way out of perspective. I’m not sure how to stop this though notice it’s linked to some extent a lack of sleep. My sleep is terrible and it’s not great at the best of times.

I genuinely feel for people and I know there are a lot out there who have it far worse than me.

I think you did very well just to make it through that day. No-one could come out of a day like that and have no stress or anxiety.

[CAH706]

Thanks devnull- appreciate the comment

[GloverMart]

CAH706 said:

Thanks PaulG

I’ve talked myself round this morning and I’m back to being more positive.

The thing I find at the moment is I react too much to things and get things way out of perspective. I’m not sure how to stop this though notice it’s linked to some extent a lack of sleep. My sleep is terrible and it’s not great at the best of times.

I genuinely feel for people and I know there are a lot out there who have it far worse than me.

Glad you've had a better day today, CAH, hope the improvement continues. You've got a hell of a lot on your plate right now, best advice I can give is not to worry about other people having it worse than you, you have to deal with your own stuff.

The sleep thing is indeed a difficult thing to try to cope with a stressful life as well. Maybe a GP visit might help..... when I've had a crap night's sleep, the slightest thing can tip me over the edge the following day.

[Skyedriver]

Hello CAH706
First question, how did your Wife's operation go, hopefully good news on that front?
Second, OK the redundancy notice didn't arrive so you still have a job, hopefully still receiving pay/salary? The redundancy will come through eventually surely? Have you another job to go to?
Home schooling, give the school office a call and tell them you have a problem. Is it your equipment, your lack of tech knowledge or the schools broadcast? They should be able to talk you through that but it's first days back, the kids won't be doing much new yet so don't panic. Can they ring one of their schoolmates to ask for help.

It's a dreadful time of the year, cold, dark, the run down from Christmas and we all feel a bit down. Some more than others, the worry of what is to come and how to deal with the past and present. The past has gone and can't be recovered, the present is now, the nights are starting to get lighter, the weather will improve, your Wife will get out of hospital, your children will get home schooling sorted.

Take care CAH706, I wish you well and am thinking of you.

[CAH706]

Thanks all again for the comments. They are really kind, thoughtful and demonstrate the best in people

My wife’s operation went well. The 3hr op lasted 6 hours but the surgeon is pleased with things. My wife is in pain but happy enough and I think relieved to get this step out of the way. If we get a good outcome in a couple of weeks post the analysis of the tissue samples we will be in a great place. We have been together 30 years so ready to start to wind down a bit and spend old age together.

Job wise.....I will leave as there is no role for me and the company needs to save the cash. It’s a long story but to be honest I’m ok with things now. Was just a message I couldn’t take yesterday.

Amazingly I (we) did fix my sons access.... used the tried and trusted shut down and restart method .... when that didn’t work my 12 year old fixed it

Much better day today. I’ve stopped all alcohol now (I’m not a big drinker) as it doesn’t feel a good idea at the minute.

Sorry for the length of this....I did speak to the doctor re: my sleep. No real advice other than to issue sleeping tablets. Tried for 2 days and they made no difference so I’ve stopped them. If things don’t improve I will go back to the doctors.

Sincerely, thanks again

[mcelliott]

CAH706 said:

Thanks all again for the comments. They are really kind, thoughtful and demonstrate the best in people

My wife’s operation went well. The 3hr op lasted 6 hours but the surgeon is pleased with things. My wife is in pain but happy enough and I think relieved to get this step out of the way. If we get a good outcome in a couple of weeks post the analysis of the tissue samples we will be in a great place. We have been together 30 years so ready to start to wind down a bit and spend old age together.

Job wise.....I will leave as there is no role for me and the company needs to save the cash. It’s a long story but to be honest I’m ok with things now. Was just a message I couldn’t take yesterday.

Amazingly I (we) did fix my sons access.... used the tried and trusted shut down and restart method .... when that didn’t work my 12 year old fixed it

Much better day today. I’ve stopped all alcohol now (I’m not a big drinker) as it doesn’t feel a good idea at the minute.

Sorry for the length of this....I did speak to the doctor re: my sleep. No real advice other than to issue sleeping tablets. Tried for 2 days and they made no difference so I’ve stopped them. If things don’t improve I will go back to the doctors.

Sincerely, thanks again

Glad things are looking better, re sleeping, I find a Magnesium tab an hour before bed helps me sleep.

[CAH706]

Thanks, I’ll give that a go

[GloverMart]

CAH706 said:

Thanks, I’ll give that a go

Or lie on the edge of the bed, you'll soon drop off!!

(Sorry, it's an oldie but a goodie!)

[paulguitar]

GloverMart said:

CAH706 said:

Thanks, I’ll give that a go

Or lie on the edge of the bed, you'll soon drop off!!

(Sorry, it's an oldie but a goodie!)

I've found three large G&T's and a bottle of wine helps me get off to sleep quite well, but would not expect that this is recommended by sensible folks.

[z4RRSchris]

the key is understanding the / your situation, knowing its less than ideal, but that you cant control wider factors, so start with controlling the ones you can.

once you give up worrying about things out of your control, and just accept them as done, then life gets alot easier.

you cant control corona, lockdown, numbers, etc - so don't bother.

you can control your health, fitness, diet, day to day activity, work (to an extent), your home, - so start here.

[Skyedriver]

CAH706 said:

Thanks all again for the comments. They are really kind, thoughtful and demonstrate the best in people

My wife’s operation went well. The 3hr op lasted 6 hours but the surgeon is pleased with things. My wife is in pain but happy enough and I think relieved to get this step out of the way. If we get a good outcome in a couple of weeks post the analysis of the tissue samples we will be in a great place. We have been together 30 years so ready to start to wind down a bit and spend old age together.

Job wise.....I will leave as there is no role for me and the company needs to save the cash. It’s a long story but to be honest I’m ok with things now. Was just a message I couldn’t take yesterday.

Amazingly I (we) did fix my sons access.... used the tried and trusted shut down and restart method .... when that didn’t work my 12 year old fixed it

Much better day today. I’ve stopped all alcohol now (I’m not a big drinker) as it doesn’t feel a good idea at the minute.

Sorry for the length of this....I did speak to the doctor re: my sleep. No real advice other than to issue sleeping tablets. Tried for 2 days and they made no difference so I’ve stopped them. If things don’t improve I will go back to the doctors.

Sincerely, thanks again

Thanks for the update, glad your wife is on the mend. You sound better too. Light at the end of the tunnel as they say.

[Douglas Quaid]

CAH have you tried going for a run? I’ve started during lockdown. Never liked it before but I do find it does help mentally as you just focus on your breathing and not much else. Always feel better after. Think it helps burn off nervous energy.

[CAH706]

Thanks skyedriver

Hi Douglas - I did run in the last lockdown but not doing so at the minute. I do do an hour in my gym (garage )most days and walk the dog everyday. I also try to do some exercise with my son at least every other day. Once things warm up and the pavements are less slippy I'll stay to do the odd run with the dog

[smashing]

Yup I'm fking tired of this st tbh...I put it off thinking about it as much as possible, wake up, log in and deal with st all day and then log off in the evening...rinse and repeat for the past several months with colleagues I have never actually met working with 0 guidance or support along with most of my stress coping mechanisms being removed has left me feeling pretty stressed tbh

All work and no play doesn't work

[devnull]

For those of you who have Netflix, there is now the "Headspace" series. Great set of short videos which give an introduction to meditation.

Strongly recommend people giving mediation a try at the very least. Much less about sitting and crossing your legs whilst saying ommmmmmmmmm and much more about learning the ability to calm your mind and deal with a lot of the distractions and things we make up in our own mind on a day to day basis.

[BoRED S2upid]

mybrainhurts said:

Everything's going downhill these days. In the early days of pistonheads, the solution quickly offered up would be furious wking.

Ah the good old days. You can’t even opt for coke and hookers as thehookers are on furlough.

[croyde]

I feel sorry for the hookers. How are you girls (and boys) coping?

How on earth does anyone date these days?

Nice to hear people being kind and supportive on this thread. Keep up the good work.

My home life is a st show made many many times worse by these restrictions.

Trying to keep my boozing and bad food down and going for walks everyday. This time of year is bad enough in the UK without Covid and Brexit etc.

Lockdown 1 I got into running via the Couch to 5k app. Weather was great and within 9 weeks I was regularly doing 5ks in under half an hour. Unfortunately I then got injuries that could have ruined my first love, hiking, so have been avoiding running for now.

During the Summer of relative freedom we lost our foreign holidays so went to Cornwall, Devon and the Lakes. Lots of walking in awful weather conditions. No wonder I usually go abroad.

I did learn to paddle board on the Thames and got a bit of kayaking in.

But yes winter. Dark, miserable and cold plus a crappy rental flat with no running hot water plus difficult and expensive to heat.

Add to that an alcoholic ex-wife still looking after 2 of our 3 teens, one of which is 6ft 5in and autistic.

Constant call outs to the house for me and also police and social workers very involved.

It runs me to the ragged edge. I'm 58 and thought that life would be easier by now.

Covid reactions destroyed my 30 years of freelancing but luckily I fell into a full time job. Doesn't pay quite enough but I'm better off than many in my old freelance career.

2020 was going to be the year I would bring my 18 year old into my work with the hope he'd find something he'd like doing.

I had also planned to take him on a European road trip.

Alas it wasn't to be, so he sits up all night shouting on his computer and sleeps all day.

My 15 year old had basically no schooling for 6 months and has fallen off the rails, despite us raiding our pathetic pension pot to get him into a nice private school with very good home schooling as we are just finding out.

Mmmmm I wasn't going to go into detail but ended up writing it all down. It feels good to have done it.

Wishing luck to everyone on here. I left work yesterday at 1645 and there was a shred of light in the sky, really made me feel happy.

The little things.

[bobbysmithy]

croyde said:

I feel sorry for the hookers. How are you girls (and boys) coping?

How on earth does anyone date these days?

The little things.

I really hope things get better for you. Please keep looking for the positives and active. Congrats on your job and at the minute the only thing positive I have also found is the days getting longer.

[JagLover]

No doubt many suffering at present.

I have suffered from anxiety for a few years now so all I can really do is share the things that help me with it.

Exercise, even if you don't feel like it, even half an hour walking in the fresh air is vital.

Not only sleep but the routine before sleep is critical. If you are at all on edge do not watch anything stressful or disturbing. Following on from that my wife goes to bed before I do so I usually watch some clips on Youtube, usually factual non stressful stuff, before going to bed. If you are still struggling to sleep there is nothing wrong with separate bedrooms. If it is good enough for the aristocracy it can work for the plebs as well.

Pick a time of the day when you will not go on a computer or tablet style device anymore and keep to that. Again part of the process of unwinding before sleep.

Edited by JagLover on Monday 11th January 10:22

[V1nce Fox]

not great. constantly feel like i only just have hold of my anger.