Just walked out. Weight lifted.

Just walked out. Weight lifted.

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lrdisco

Original Poster:

628 posts

64 months

Thursday 12th May
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Well that was a while coming.
I have been consulting in Dublin for a mainland European company, the project planning was a disaster for our head office and we have an awful client.

So when our owner shouts in my face and swore at me about some poor information that I had innocently passed on it was time to call it a day. (Information supplied to me by someone on my team!)
Yes I could have checked but we were under so much pressure there was never time.

I may sound precious but I dont swear and shout in peoples faces, why would I accept someone doing it to me?

To be honest it is a weight off my shoulders. Glad to be going home, about to pack my bags and get on the ferry.

The role was well paid but it was effecting my mental health. There really is more to life. I have just turned 50 and have other projects lined up but I think I will just take a couple of weeks off and spend it with my family.

Looking forward to sleeping in my own bed and not getting up at 4am every Monday and the hell that is Leeds Bradford airport security.

So to anyone else thinking about it, just do it.

sunnygym

884 posts

152 months

Thursday 12th May
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Enjoy time with your family and fk them, life’s to short to work with s

MrBig

1,755 posts

106 months

Thursday 12th May
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sunnygym said:
Enjoy time with your family and fk them, life’s to short to work with s
This. Well done for having the spuds to do it. Now don't give it a second thought... and don't forget to turn the alarm clock off smile

dundarach

3,515 posts

205 months

Thursday 12th May
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sunnygym said:
Enjoy time with your family and fk them, life’s to short to work with s
Excellent, this I predict will be one of your greatest moments in life!

Flooble

4,627 posts

77 months

Thursday 12th May
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I did the same many years ago, pretty similar circumstances. I can remember everything seeming brighter, hearing birds singing for the first time. I phoned one mate and he asked me before I had even told him "What's going on, you sound so much happier".

lrdisco

Original Poster:

628 posts

64 months

Thursday 12th May
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MrBig said:
sunnygym said:
Enjoy time with your family and fk them, life’s to short to work with s
This. Well done for having the spuds to do it. Now don't give it a second thought... and don't forget to turn the alarm clock off smile
Thanks very much for your support.
I really knew I should have not come back after February but I dont want to let people down.
Now going for a mid afternoon nap.

sbk1972

761 posts

53 months

Thursday 12th May
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Well done. Im also 50 and wont take this type of crap anymore. Im a contractor and have been for 25 years but where as in my youth I would accept anything as long as I was paid, nowadays theres more to life and too hell with it.

Life is too short, lots of friends around me have had heart attacks, many have died an all in their mid 50s. You work to live, not live to work.

Well done, now got take a break, reset and enjoy.

SBK

MitchT

14,349 posts

186 months

Thursday 12th May
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Wish I could afford to do this. Most "employed" people are paid just enough to not starve while not enough to build up the cushion needed to walk away from crap situations. Employers know exactly how to keep most of us under control.

limpsfield

5,312 posts

230 months

Thursday 12th May
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MrBig said:
sunnygym said:
Enjoy time with your family and fk them, life’s to short to work with s
This. Well done for having the spuds to do it. Now don't give it a second thought... and don't forget to turn the alarm clock off smile
And the same sentiments from me too. 53 here, and far too old for any of that st.

Enjoy the rest!

DodgyGeezer

31,032 posts

167 months

Thursday 12th May
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amusingly I did much the same. Mrs DG and I had been discussing retirement for a while but when yet another round of "sorry no money for pay-rises" occurred I'd had enough, didn't need the job and so I was able to say "don't worry, I quit". Such a refreshing feeling! That said retirement is taking a while to get used to since after a couple of weeks break I really don't want to get myself into bad habits so am starting to try and add some structure to my day

105.4

1,960 posts

48 months

Thursday 12th May
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dundarach said:
Excellent, this I predict will be one of your greatest moments in life!
yes

Well done Irdisco clap

I’ve done this twice. The first time was when I was running a very busy restaurant for a well known brewery. For weeks many items would be missing off of my weekly orders. When we ran out of soap, I emailed off my resignation, closed down the kitchen, locked-up and posted the keys through the letterbox.

The second time was when I was working for a local electrical engineering firm. My (new) Supervisor would bark instructions at me and the rest of the guys in the morning, I’d write them down, read them back to her and get cracking with my work. Every day, like clockwork, she’d come and berate me and the rest of the guys for doing pointless tasks, meaning we’d wasted 1/2 days work, over and over again.

Four, (out of six), of us all walked out one Friday lunchtime. It had taken her less than two weeks to ps off 2/3rds of the workforce so much that they all left.

Don’t sweat getting a new job Irdisco. Something better will turn up quicker than you think. smile

Countdown

33,752 posts

173 months

Thursday 12th May
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lrdisco said:
So to anyone else thinking about it, just do it.
Completely agree. I've only been in that position once but can still remember the feeling of elation on the drive home.

I was fortunate in that I had 6 months savings built up and my wife fully supported me but I still felt a bit of a failure for walking out and "letting him win".

sunnygym

884 posts

152 months

Thursday 12th May
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Countdown said:
lrdisco said:
So to anyone else thinking about it, just do it.
Completely agree. I've only been in that position once but can still remember the feeling of elation on the drive home.

I was fortunate in that I had 6 months savings built up and my wife fully supported me but I still felt a bit of a failure for walking out and "letting him win".
They definitely didn’t win! They now have to find someone else to blame for their own bad management and lack of skills.

lel

372 posts

100 months

Thursday 12th May
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I did it last Friday. 27 years old with very little savings, 2 cars to pay for etc but my god do I feel good. Already got 1 job offer and 2 more interviews pending smile

Gixer968CS

372 posts

65 months

Thursday 12th May
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I worked in a pretty toxic environment for a few years and as the pressure on me and the culture changed fairly gradually I didn't realise the stress I was under and the way in which it was impacting my health (physical and mental) and behaviour. In the end they took the pee and asked me to take on an impossible workload (cover two senior roles myself) and I said no. So, they made me redundant with a very nice package and I walked away. Best thing I have ever done professionally. I took an entire year off and eventually got headhunted for a similar role at a competitor which I love. Anyway, after about a month or so of leaving the toxic lot my girlfriend said to me one day "it's nice to have you back". I'll never let work impact my life to that extend again and well done OP for seeing the light. I very much doubt you'll regret it.

The upshot at Toxic Co was that they employed the two people they needed but went more junior. Gave the two little support and nothing chanmged, both have been out on stress and one has left, walked out without another job to go to. This company talks about culture and wellbeing and diversity and how its people are its greatest asset and blah blah blah but in fact it's all a lie.

Silvanus

55 posts

Thursday 12th May
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I did it last year, the industry and companies I'd worked for over 20 years just eventually started to drag me down, I wasn't enjoying my position and at times it caused me immense stress and family problems. In the end I handed my notice in and spent the next 6 months volunteering until my savings ran out. I'm now in an industry and role where I genuinely get excited to get up and go to work, essentially being paid to do what I was volunteering for. I'm on half the money and finances are tight but I'm not in debt and my daughter has all she needs. I feel very happy and wished I'd done it sooner. I'm currently injured so can't work but I'm genuinely excited to get fit and to get back at it

Countdown

33,752 posts

173 months

Thursday 12th May
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sunnygym said:
Countdown said:
lrdisco said:
So to anyone else thinking about it, just do it.
Completely agree. I've only been in that position once but can still remember the feeling of elation on the drive home.

I was fortunate in that I had 6 months savings built up and my wife fully supported me but I still felt a bit of a failure for walking out and "letting him win".
They definitely didn’t win! They now have to find someone else to blame for their own bad management and lack of skills.
What you say makes sense but the ego doesn't always work logically.

Anyway karma is a bh and he was "let go to seek other opportunities" 12 months later. The Board clearly realised that he was toxic and the turnover of senior directors was unsustainable.

V6 Pushfit

19,339 posts

87 months

Thursday 12th May
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I had 25 years of ste as a salaried Partner (ie better salary than an employee but liabilities and client face of an equity Partner) and it came to a head like OP. I left and started on my own and most of my clients came with me. Since then it’s been the most enjoyable working period of my life - the freedom, the fees! and no ogre of a non working despotic equity partner babying his fist for a cash flow update every Monday morning!!!

Kawasicki

11,030 posts

212 months

Thursday 12th May
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Good move Irdisco!

Congrats.

bmwmike

4,670 posts

85 months

Thursday 12th May
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sunnygym said:
Countdown said:
lrdisco said:
So to anyone else thinking about it, just do it.
Completely agree. I've only been in that position once but can still remember the feeling of elation on the drive home.

I was fortunate in that I had 6 months savings built up and my wife fully supported me but I still felt a bit of a failure for walking out and "letting him win".
They definitely didn’t win! They now have to find someone else to blame for their own bad management and lack of skills.
..and explain to their management why they had someone walk out and the respective projects got to be picked up etc. Something similar just happened at my org and the manager has been fired, for not entirely different reasons. Its causing a lot of issues with inevitable rippling out to the other teams.