Experience with extra marital affairs!
Discussion
C4ME said:
The OP has deliberately tried very hard to disguise whether it is male or female which makes me think it is not genuine. It's a very emotional subject to be doing something so odd.
Probably because if it all goes south it's on the internet forever and a detailed description of a situation can be spotted. Sa Calobra said:
Probably because if it all goes south it's on the internet forever and a detailed description of a situation can be spotted.
True but deliberately excluding he or she from the text doesn't make it any less identifiable. There are lots of nuggets in there such as 'travels globally' etc which are more indicative of the people involved to anyone closer to the situation.98elise said:
I would say it's a purposely written to avoid any indication of the sex of any of the people involved. Odd subject for a first post on a car forum.
My Spidey senses are tingling!
It's not that unusual for an established member to create an anonymous second account to discuss sensitive issues, especially if the primary account is well known and has met several members at meets etcMy Spidey senses are tingling!
stuartmmcfc said:
Writhing said:
Is the partner male or female ? Its not clear in the original message. Not that it makes much difference. Leopards don’t change their spots. The partner may feel remorse right now but it is probably because they got caught rather than any sorrow for you.
This is my puzzle aswell. I think the op is female and cheater is male, which if correct, makes all the “all women are snakes with tits” posts a bit premature.In any case, I'd find it extremely difficult to continue in such a situation, more so knowing that you really don't know the half of it due to the constant lies (despite being 'found out'). Tackle this head on and give your partner a chance to come clean on everything - if it becomes apparent later on that he/she has not be totally honest then you've made the deal clear - walk.
Note, I say this not knowing your or your family situation. It's always far easier to say than do. I'd probably be a crying mess so you've already done better than I by writing this down.
Good luck.
Jasandjules said:
The only question really is what do you want to do about it?
It seems like the trust has gone and can not come back and this was not an "open" marriage etc therefore do you wish to stay with such a person? If not.... If yes, then you can try counselling and whatever else may help.
That's it basically. I am far from an expert but I think the main options are a) continue as is and accept a mistress (highly unlikely I would have thought) b) he accepts his mistake and you re-build or c) you both go your own ways. As there are kids in the mix I suspect any of the 3 options are going to be easy.It seems like the trust has gone and can not come back and this was not an "open" marriage etc therefore do you wish to stay with such a person? If not.... If yes, then you can try counselling and whatever else may help.
LittleBigPlanet said:
stuartmmcfc said:
Writhing said:
Is the partner male or female ? Its not clear in the original message. Not that it makes much difference. Leopards don’t change their spots. The partner may feel remorse right now but it is probably because they got caught rather than any sorrow for you.
This is my puzzle aswell. I think the op is female and cheater is male, which if correct, makes all the “all women are snakes with tits” posts a bit premature.In any case, I'd find it extremely difficult to continue in such a situation, more so knowing that you really don't know the half of it due to the constant lies (despite being 'found out'). Tackle this head on and give your partner a chance to come clean on everything - if it becomes apparent later on that he/she has not be totally honest then you've made the deal clear - walk.
Note, I say this not knowing your or your family situation. It's always far easier to say than do. I'd probably be a crying mess so you've already done better than I by writing this down.
Good luck.
Some males and females have their naughty side and feel they deserve casual sex.
I have been on the other side of the fence having the affair with a married woman and have the mental scars. Never again.
Edited by Sa Calobra on Saturday 12th January 11:54
End it now.... you will never be able to forget, it will eat you from the inside forwever. Years and years down the line it will always be in your mind, it might not be everyday but it will be at least every week.
Even at this point you think you can forgive and forget and you love the person dearly, you think it will hurt more to leave now. It won’t. It truly dosent go. And at some point in the further you will wish you had left.
Leave and start over. No matter how hard you think it will be now. It’s cutting off an arm to save a body in the long run.
Sorry for you heart ache.
Even at this point you think you can forgive and forget and you love the person dearly, you think it will hurt more to leave now. It won’t. It truly dosent go. And at some point in the further you will wish you had left.
Leave and start over. No matter how hard you think it will be now. It’s cutting off an arm to save a body in the long run.
Sorry for you heart ache.
Wish said:
End it now.... you will never be able to forget, it will eat you from the inside forwever. Years and years down the line it will always be in your mind, it might not be everyday but it will be at least every week.
Even at this point you think you can forgive and forget and you love the person dearly, you think it will hurt more to leave now. It won’t. It truly dosent go. And at some point in the further you will wish you had left.
Leave and start over. No matter how hard you think it will be now. It’s cutting off an arm to save a body in the long run.
Sorry for you heart ache.
This is pretty much spot on advice. With the benefit of hindsight in my own marriage, I wished I’d not bothered to try and make things work with someone who cheated and lied so much. Even at this point you think you can forgive and forget and you love the person dearly, you think it will hurt more to leave now. It won’t. It truly dosent go. And at some point in the further you will wish you had left.
Leave and start over. No matter how hard you think it will be now. It’s cutting off an arm to save a body in the long run.
Sorry for you heart ache.
OP...is there anything you've done or not done that could have "justified the spouses actions? if your spaouse has a reason in their own mind that can be dealt with for the future, then work at it.
otherwise if you are blameless and they are a cheat bite the bullet and get it over with now.
otherwise if you are blameless and they are a cheat bite the bullet and get it over with now.
Johnnytheboy said:
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red_slr said:
Pics.... anyone asked for pics?
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