Match.com (Vol. 7)

[PAUL.S.]

First thing I always remember is "who is behind the camera actually taking that posed pic" then look for tell tell signs like selfies in a left hand drive car, all non UK backgrounds, and daft things like light switches not being UK spec. They are getting clever now and having actual girls do the poses rather than steal generic pics off the internet so Google Images often does not come up with the goods.

It's such a minefield now, also had one of those pig butchering situations just last week, message from an unknown number from a good looking girl on whatsapp asking if that Kelvin? (clearly they know this anyway as my whatsapp profile pic is very clear) thought I would play along so replied "no sorry", to which they responded" ah sorry thought this was Richards number"! so I left it. 30 mins later I get "who am I talking to out of curiosity" and the scam app was off and running....duly blocked.

The old adage....If it's too good to be true, then trust your gut, 99.9 times out of a hundred its a scam.

Must be enough lonely, gullible men out there to make it financially worthwhile, same with the older ladies thinking a hunky marine has actually fallen for them online.

[trackdemon]

PAUL.S. said:

First thing I always remember is "who is behind the camera actually taking that posed pic" then look for tell tell signs like selfies in a left hand drive car, all non UK backgrounds, and daft things like light switches not being UK spec. They are getting clever now and having actual girls do the poses rather than steal generic pics off the internet so Google Images often does not come up with the goods.

It's such a minefield now, also had one of those pig butchering situations just last week, message from an unknown number from a good looking girl on whatsapp asking if that Kelvin? (clearly they know this anyway as my whatsapp profile pic is very clear) thought I would play along so replied "no sorry", to which they responded" ah sorry thought this was Richards number"! so I left it. 30 mins later I get "who am I talking to out of curiosity" and the scam app was off and running....duly blocked.

The old adage....If it's too good to be true, then trust your gut, 99.9 times out of a hundred its a scam.

Must be enough lonely, gullible men out there to make it financially worthwhile, same with the older ladies thinking a hunky marine has actually fallen for them online.

I get these 'oh I accidentally messaged you' type whatsapps every few months. Mostly I block, sometimes I play along to see if I can waste their time 'we should meet up and see if we like each other IRL' type things. Trying to reel one in currently. They must think there's a lot of stupid men out there.... maybe there is!

[Hammersia]

PAUL.S. said:

First thing I always remember is "who is behind the camera actually taking that posed pic" then look for tell tell signs like selfies in a left hand drive car, all non UK backgrounds, and daft things like light switches not being UK spec. They are getting clever now and having actual girls do the poses rather than steal generic pics off the internet so Google Images often does not come up with the goods.

It's such a minefield now, also had one of those pig butchering situations just last week, message from an unknown number from a good looking girl on whatsapp asking if that Kelvin? (clearly they know this anyway as my whatsapp profile pic is very clear) thought I would play along so replied "no sorry", to which they responded" ah sorry thought this was Richards number"! so I left it. 30 mins later I get "who am I talking to out of curiosity" and the scam app was off and running....duly blocked.

The old adage....If it's too good to be true, then trust your gut, 99.9 times out of a hundred its a scam.

Must be enough lonely, gullible men out there to make it financially worthwhile, same with the older ladies thinking a hunky marine has actually fallen for them online.

As I said on the previous page, don't really understand how image search (tineye etc.) doesn't come up with hits apparently? Tineye was even picking up on the outfit type and showing girls in similar outfits, but not showing any matches for the photo.

Surely there's not that many hits that it's worth paying girls to do one outfit / one background per photo? Or are the photos never "public" they just get sent through dating website accounts and Tineye can't find them,?

[throt]

I had those whatsapp's in the past.

Had a cracking looking girl "like" and message me on Hinge. It turned out that she was a hooker and she was using Hinge to bonk who she could choose. She was 700 quid for a 24hr gf experience

Clever idea though.

[Blown2CV]

throt said:

I had those whatsapp's in the past.

Had a cracking looking girl "like" and message me on Hinge. It turned out that she was a hooker and she was using Hinge to bonk who she could choose. She was 700 quid for a 24hr gf experience

Clever idea though.

does the 24hr girlfriend experience involve getting nagged about the washing up and gett huffy for no reason and then claiming there isn't a problem when asked.

[POIDH]

trackdemon said:

I get these 'oh I accidentally messaged you' type whatsapps every few months. Mostly I block, sometimes I play along to see if I can waste their time 'we should meet up and see if we like each other IRL' type things. Trying to reel one in currently. They must think there's a lot of stupid men out there.... maybe there is!

And by doing so you confirm your phone number to a scammer, who can pass it on to pals.
If you get a random like that and you don't recognise, just block it.

[trackdemon]

Blown2CV said:

throt said:

I had those whatsapp's in the past.

Had a cracking looking girl "like" and message me on Hinge. It turned out that she was a hooker and she was using Hinge to bonk who she could choose. She was 700 quid for a 24hr gf experience

Clever idea though.

does the 24hr girlfriend experience involve getting nagged about the washing up and gett huffy for no reason and then claiming there isn't a problem when asked.

Surely it's only a 'gf experience' if you'd choose to have a we as your girlfriend?

[throt]

Blown2CV said:

does the 24hr girlfriend experience involve getting nagged about the washing up and gett huffy for no reason and then claiming there isn't a problem when asked.

Not sure as I did not need the gf experience .

She was a hot hot, I give her that.

[throt]

trackdemon said:

Surely it's only a 'gf experience' if you'd choose to have a we as your girlfriend?

Yes indeed.

She was just fishing to contact the actual guys she would prefer to bang, and , get paid for it.

Better than knocking on some randoms door, after a booking and then thinking - " no thank you "

[ChemicalChaos]

A tricky question here, to put to the PH massive.

My girlfriend and I are going from strength to strength, today is only 2 months since our first date, but time seems weirdly elongated - it feels like we've known each other for ages (in a good way!) due to how well we instantly "clicked" and settled into chatting like old friends. It seems both of us are convinced that the other is "the one" and I'm so incredibly happy with everything about her - and my perception would be she feels the same.
It may therefore not come as a surprise that I want to tell her I love her - I really have never felt so strongly about someone in my entire life. But is it too soon? If so, how long is the correct amount of time? I'm aware it's a bit of a "piece of string" question but I also, despite our affection for each other, don't want to come across as worrying levels of overly attached!

Answers invited.....

[Bluevanman]

ChemicalChaos said:

A tricky question here, to put to the PH massive.

My girlfriend and I are going from strength to strength, today is only 2 months since our first date, but time seems weirdly elongated - it feels like we've known each other for ages (in a good way!) due to how well we instantly "clicked" and settled into chatting like old friends. It seems both of us are convinced that the other is "the one" and I'm so incredibly happy with everything about her - and my perception would be she feels the same.
It may therefore not come as a surprise that I want to tell her I love her - I really have never felt so strongly about someone in my entire life. But is it too soon? If so, how long is the correct amount of time? I'm aware it's a bit of a "piece of string" question but I also, despite our affection for each other, don't want to come across as worrying levels of overly attached!

Answers invited.....

And you will no doubt expect her to recipricate,no ?
Just bear this in mind,how will you feel if she doesn't ?

[CharlesdeGaulle]

ChemicalChaos said:

A tricky question here, to put to the PH massive...


... Answers invited.....

Don't over-think it, just tell her. If you want to hedge your bets you could qualify it slightly by saying something like 'I think/am pretty sure I'm falling in love with you' or something cheesily similar, but just come out with it.

If it does precipitate a disastrous and embarrassing silence you at least have found out she despises you before wasting any more time with her. Good luck.

[halo34]

ChemicalChaos said:

A tricky question here, to put to the PH massive.

My girlfriend and I are going from strength to strength, today is only 2 months since our first date, but time seems weirdly elongated - it feels like we've known each other for ages (in a good way!) due to how well we instantly "clicked" and settled into chatting like old friends. It seems both of us are convinced that the other is "the one" and I'm so incredibly happy with everything about her - and my perception would be she feels the same.
It may therefore not come as a surprise that I want to tell her I love her - I really have never felt so strongly about someone in my entire life. But is it too soon? If so, how long is the correct amount of time? I'm aware it's a bit of a "piece of string" question but I also, despite our affection for each other, don't want to come across as worrying levels of overly attached!

Answers invited.....

Its difficult territory - the clue may be in the username. Its up to each couple, but be aware the honeymoon period, hormones and your body is designed to make you feel in a certain way. This phase does end, so just be wise to how its going, how quickly things are going before you have both had a chance to figure out red flags.

Dont ask me how I know..

[C4ME]

ChemicalChaos said:

A tricky question here, to put to the PH massive.

My girlfriend and I are going from strength to strength, today is only 2 months since our first date, but time seems weirdly elongated - it feels like we've known each other for ages (in a good way!) due to how well we instantly "clicked" and settled into chatting like old friends. It seems both of us are convinced that the other is "the one" and I'm so incredibly happy with everything about her - and my perception would be she feels the same.
It may therefore not come as a surprise that I want to tell her I love her - I really have never felt so strongly about someone in my entire life. But is it too soon? If so, how long is the correct amount of time? I'm aware it's a bit of a "piece of string" question but I also, despite our affection for each other, don't want to come across as worrying levels of overly attached!

Answers invited.....

Telling someone how you feel about them in the moment is a positive thing. “I love you” should not come with perceived strings though, e.g. this means forever or you should tell me the same in return.

Telling someone you think she is the one, or wanting to move the relationship onto another stage is a different conversation, which you/her/both may feel you want to have at some point.

[ChemicalChaos]

This is why I wanted to ask advice here..... I know she doesn't dislike me as suggested above, she is acting just as smitten as I am - hell, she's booked a weekend away for us! I'm 99.9% sure she would reciprocate the same at the correct moment in time but I'm not sure if she also thinks we're at the time yet.... and I definitely don't want to cause an awkward silence!
Part of me wants to leave it a bit longer, but part of me also wonders whether she is already thinking "he's really into me, so when's he going to tell me he loves me?"
I really hate having an overthinking imagination....

[Adam.]

Was in a similar position, say what you feel but start with 'I am falling in love with you'

IMHO

[QJumper]

ChemicalChaos said:

A tricky question here, to put to the PH massive.

My girlfriend and I are going from strength to strength, today is only 2 months since our first date, but time seems weirdly elongated - it feels like we've known each other for ages (in a good way!) due to how well we instantly "clicked" and settled into chatting like old friends. It seems both of us are convinced that the other is "the one" and I'm so incredibly happy with everything about her - and my perception would be she feels the same.
It may therefore not come as a surprise that I want to tell her I love her - I really have never felt so strongly about someone in my entire life. But is it too soon? If so, how long is the correct amount of time? I'm aware it's a bit of a "piece of string" question but I also, despite our affection for each other, don't want to come across as worrying levels of overly attached!

Answers invited.....

There's no one size fits all answer to such a question. Telling someone you love them. for the first time, has an impact, and it depends as much on the nature of the other person as it does the relationship and how you feel.

On the one hand, a needy and insecure person might find it reassuring, whilst someone more independent, who enjoys the early part of the relationship because it's carefree, migh find it a little pressuring. Ultimately then it's not so much about when, but about playing the course you're on, and only you are able to tell what kind of person your girlfriend is.

If it were me, and I was uncertain, then I'd wait. Saying so could go either way but, in my experience, being the second one to say it, or the one to reciprocate, has no such potential downsides.

[technodup]

Get steaming then blurt it out at 3am in some Spanish back alley. That's what I did and it didn't do me any harm.

You can also deny it/blame it on the drink in the morning if need be.

[dai1983]

Adam. said:

Was in a similar position, say what you feel but start with 'I am falling in love with you'

IMHO

This bit only if you genuinely feel it.

It's worked out that I've always told the other person first and I blurted it out to my gf after about a month in the heat of the moment. We had been inseparable for most of that time, had met her family and was feeling it more than I'd ever done before.

She didn't reciprocate and I didn't expect her to but she did kiss me passionately so it wasn't awkward. Later she asked me how many women I'd said it to I guess to determine if I was being genuine instead of throwing it about to everyone.

I had about a week of flapping in my head that I had fked up then she traced on my palm with her finger while we were cuddling:

I
'loveheart'
U

Like a dhead I didn't realise so was like "eh? What you doing". She did it again so I finally twigged and the rest is history.

[interstellar]

technodup said:

Get steaming then blurt it out at 3am in some Spanish back alley. That's what I did and it didn't do me any harm.

You can also deny it/blame it on the drink in the morning if need be.

I was waiting for you to come out with a different strategy.

I half expected you to say “get your hole” and stop thinking or something like that