Marriage, How much is she worth?

[julian64]

Just read yet another thread regarding a marriage heading for the rocks.

I can't help think that some people need marriage guidance before they anter a relationship. I also can't help think that I have a vastly different idea about what marriage is than most of the people who post on here.

For a start if your wife pays you rent to stay in your house, she is a lodger, not a wife, and you have no business calling it a marriage.

If you are married to someone its because you have effectively allowed them to become a part of your life, the good bits and the bad bits, and than includes the bank account. If she divorces you one day after the marriage, she still owns half your wealth, and you own half of hers.

Going into a marriage where one partner owns all the money and all the assets and the other partner just brings their charm is simply a parent child dependancy relationship. If with that knowledge the two parties still decide its love than they should still be regarded as equal partners in the assets once married.

I just don't understand the whole retrospectively deciding how much one person contributed. Simply don't get married, and stop pretending that you are.

[julian64]

Mobile Chicane said:

The established rule is that 'rich' doesn't marry 'poor'.

I keep comming back to this remark, cos it partially hits the nail on the head but in some ways misses.

One culture doesn't marry another
Rich doesn't marry poor
one religion doesn't marry another
one education level doesn't marry another


They are all wrong in my book, and in some ways they are all right. If you want to play it safe in life and have the best chance of a long rewarding marriage you obey these rules and probably more like them. You log onto some computer dating site where they match as many aspects of your personality including whether you're rich or poor as it seems like the sensible thing to do.

Taking a risk with one, or all of these because of 'love' is what a lot of people do, but they take no responsibility for doing it.
Sitting down with your best friend prior to a marriage and saying I know we are completely different but I love him should give rise to your friend slapping you around the face way before trying to be supportive.